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Cake day: July 11th, 2023

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  • Your and his age are gonna be major variables here. Conversations and relationships work very differently at different life stages.

    You sound like you’re maybe a teenager? Try asking interesting questions that require some thought to answer, but still leave room for your friend to give an easy thoughtless answer if they want to. Where do you think we’ll be in X years? What’s something you thought you wanted but as you’ve gotten okay have realised you actually don’t? What do you think we do now thar future generations will think is crazy? Listen to his answers and ask followup questions.

    Personally, I’ve always been most impressed by directness, honesty, intelligence and courage.















  • Okay, how do you assess that harm has occurred?

    I claim that your post just harmed me. You should be excluded from the social contact.

    You violated the rules my god laid down. Harmful to me and all my fellow believers. You’re out.

    Your flagrant homosexuality is harming my children. Excluded.

    Your campaign to take away my guns is harming me and all my descendants. I was just minding my own business until you came along with your intolerant gun removal policies. Excluded! Burn him.

    This only solves the dilemma in a trivial way, if harm is transparent and uncontentious. It doesn’t address the real dilemma, which is widespread disagreement about what should and shouldn’t be tolerated.