I want to start packing with an STP-type packer, but I have no idea how/where to start. How do you get it to be comfortable, stay in place, and not leak? What type of packer do you use and what are your methods around it? Any recommendations/general advice?
I’ve been packing off an on for a little over 4 years now, and here’s what I’ve learned:
Get yourself a nice harness. Some people go without a harness and just kinda stuff the STP in their pants and I guess it just magically stays in place all day, but I’ve never been that lucky. I swear by Cake Bandit’s harnesses but there are a bunch of different types out there to experiment with. Hell, if you can sew elastic straps together you could even make your own. Some people also use medical-grade adhesives to keep their STP essentially glued in place (typically these STPs come with a large flap you stick to your groin). I’ve never tried these because I’m a hairy motherfucker and I don’t want all my belly fur ripped out every time I have to remove my STP, but I know people who swear by 'em.
Work your way up to “prime time”. Start completely naked from the waist down holding your STP in the shower. You’ll probably make a mess your first handful of attempts, and that’s okay. It’s a learning process. Once you feel very confident you can use the STP in the shower, move up to wearing your harness and/or underpants (still in the shower). Once you’ve learned how to do that with no messes, then work up to in front of a toilet. Then, in front of a toilet while also wearing pants. This whole process might take weeks, or even months, and that’s okay. You’re basically potty training yourself all over again, don’t get discouraged.
Clean your STP! Run some water and a little soap through it at least once a day. Check with your manufacturer, you might also be able to boil it or throw it in the dishwasher to get it extra clean.
I’ve gone through an Axolom Squire, EZP Junior, an STP Freely, and a Spouti trying to figure out what I like the best. Of all the ones I listed my favorites are the STP Freely and the EZP Junior. The Squire is great too, nothing really against it, I just prefer the similarly-designed Freely a little more. I got the Spouti on a whim and could never really get it to stay in place reliably, which is a shame because I was really interested by how minimal it was.
Just keep in mind that everyone’s anatomy is slightly different and what works perfect for Person X might not work for you and vice versa. Another thing to keep in mind is size. Are you getting an STP that can also be used for sex, or are you just getting one to pee? If it’s the latter, maybe you don’t need something with a super long shaft. The longer it is, the more material you’re stuffing into your pants which might be uncomfortable.
Five months later and I’m finally ready to buy one. I’ve been checking transguysupply and they’re out of stock of both harnesses and STPs for my skin tone. Do you have recommendations for other sites I could try? $100 is my budget for an STP and harness combined. I just want something to pee with that I can take with me on week long wilderness trips and be comfortable/natural looking.
Rodeoh has a decent assortment if you want to see STPs from a bunch of different makers, as does Tool Shed
(Note: That $15 STP on Tool Shed may seem tempting, but it looks exactly like the one I got years ago at a local sex shop. It’s hot trash, you’re better off saving your money)
If it were me, I’d probably suggest the Junior or Willy STP on Rodeoh, mostly because I personally prefer that cup style and a smaller shaft. STPs tend to either have a diagonal-style cup, or a more horizontal-style cup, and I feel like I’ve had more success with the horizontal type, but maybe that’s just me.
Axolom also has really good STPs, but they’re going to cost more. I mentioned the Squire in my last comment, but since then they’ve the Godor and I’m pretty intrigued.
As for harness, I’d still suggest Cake Bandit. Rodeoh also has a similar STP jock, but I’ve never used it so I can’t really vouch for it
Thanks man. I really appreciate it. It feels a lot less daunting to find an STP now.
Transguy supply is out of all the dark colors for the cake bandit harnesses in my size. Do you know of any other resellers that carry cake bandit harnesses? Also, how many harnesses do you recommend owning?