• copymyjalopy@sh.itjust.works
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    9 months ago

    Sure, the last time I tried to be tender and emotional like this my wife mocked me for crying. Do I wish for close relationships like this with my fellow men, yes but there’s no room for it for some of us. Toxic masculinity is also expressed by the women in our society (USA)

    • OsrsNeedsF2P@lemmy.ml
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      9 months ago

      So what if you get mocked for not being “manly”? Man up and double down. Tell her a real man knows it’s ok to show emotions from time to time

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        9 months ago

        I know that’s an extreme comment but I couldn’t imagine being with someone where I have to be guarded or keep walls up, that’s really unhealthy.

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          There is no reality where I would expose myself to that kind of abuse, because it is abuse. Anyone mocked for having emotions is being abused.

          I can’t speak for anyone else, but I would find far more contentment being alone and free to cry when needed than being afraid to show emotion around someone who is supposed to love and support me.

          I suppose I’m lucky to be with someone who has expressed satisfaction at the fact I don’t bottle up my emotions.