As the title states really. I need to refer to this diverse group of people, who somehow have gotten put in the same box labeled “sexual minorites”.

I’m a boring CISHET vanilla white male, so I don’t really know. I want to include as many as I can when I refer to “lgbtq+ people”. I’ve been studying various flags, trying to find the one flag I need. But I can’t really figure it out.

Is lgbtq+ the preferred term, or what should I use? Is a flag better? I don’t want to hurt someone by not including them.

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    aromantics and asexuals

    They’re covered by the term “queer” too because they’re not heterosexual. And if anyone identifies as “agender” they’d be covered by the Q too, since they’re not cisgender.

    I’m angry, I sorta want a fight

    I don’t think we have anything to fight about lol

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      I don’t want to fight either!

      Speaking as an aromantic though, I am very heterosexual. I just don’t enjoy all the lovey dovey squishy romantic things… Holding hands is mostly ok, anything beyond that kinda grosses me out. (Kissing is so weird…) I very much enjoy most of the more intimate physical things though.

      Many aromantics enjoy physical relationships, but don’t understand the more romantic aspects of them.

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      I’m not looking to fight anyone here. I’m sorry if I came across way. I want to stop my boomer coworkers from hurting LGTBQ people in our organization, and if that resolves in me debating my coworkers then that’s a fight I’m not gonna back down from… #imactuallynotverybadassjustextremelytired

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        I want to stop my boomer coworkers from hurting LGTBQ people

        As a 70 year old lesbian, I’d like to suggest you might find some more allies in your organization, please don’t assume all boomers are bigots. I have many grey haired allies. I doubt you’re as alone as you think you are, but maybe you’re just more “out” than they are. Give them the chance to come out and join you.

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        Oooh I see what you meant now lol. But yeah, I feel you.

        What’s funny is that a lot of my coworkers would shit-talk trans people until they learned I was transitioning. Now all of the sudden they’re more nuanced and understanding 🤔

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          Last time I did was today, but that was in a teasing funny setting, and to a person I hold a great deal of respect for.

          I wouldn’t in a discussion, I hate name calling, it’s counter productive. But in my mind…

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            But it exists in your head, right? Like you have mentally categorised an age of people as boomers, and you’re associating a behaviour with that category?

            The reason I say is that age is also a protected category…

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              Hmm I guess you’re right… I hadn’t thought of it that way before.

              I think I describe the behavior more than the age group, but I still see what you’re saying. Thanks for call me out on it.