I think it was awful of @nytimes to publish. Triggering for me to read— not because the writer mentioned my nearly ending my life— but seeing a public person’s sexuality being discussed is upsetting.
I think the Gaylors should be ashamed of themselves. They are doing exactly what LGTBQ+ have fought against for decades now - people making assumptions about their own lives and sexuality - but they’re masking it because it’s Taylor.
I’m in the camp of anything that’s not public is just that - not public. Even if it were true (and all signs point to it not being true), then it’d be disrespectful of us to talk about it unless she made it public. Think about it, you’re going out of your way to talk about something that she explicitly has hidden from the rest of the world. That doesn’t make you a better fan, it makes you a gossip and not an ally.
/rant.
Regardless of good or bad, right and wrong, she DECIDED to make a living by having other human listen and look at her. That was her choice. She’s very successful at it. She knew the risk, there’s nothing surprising about such a gossip or sad. That’s part of the job she CHOSE to do. If you’re a sewage worker (which I highly respect) you know you will get into shit. Same here. Different shit.
That’s some real nice victim blaming you got right there. “Hey everyone, she’s famous, she basically deserves it”.
Or we can call out people being jerks when we see it - regardless of who it’s targeted at.
I don’t care if it’s Taylor Swift or the quiet kid at school who doesn’t have any friends - making assumptions about gender or sexuality is wrong.
It’s all good but humans are humans and you’re don Quichotte fighting a wind mill. A gossip of her having a new boyfriend is the same for me as being lesbian; uninteresting and irrelevant on itself. This thread thought is what is wrong. Signalling it as “different”, That’s the problem. And that’s what needs to change. The fight should aim at making the gossip of her being lesbian or not as a boring and uninteresting - and not newsworthy. Because, honestly, that’s exactly what that is in a world of diversity
Last note, when I was a teenager in the 80’s, learning even a remote gossip of a star being “like me” gave me hope, confidence, and belief in my future in this world. There’s a lot of little gender queer 12 years old kids at the moment that would read this gossip as a ray of sunshine. So for me, I really don’t give a crap about @ million $$$ star who made money from stardom having gossips about a new love interest of any kind.
Edit: typos.
ive been a gaylor for years now but there’s a difference between me doing it on my terrible tumblr blog and the new york times writing a wholeass article about it. they should be ashamed.
also chely wright is great :3
but there’s a difference
Is there really? Besides enormity of scale?
there’s a difference between fandom shipping and a national newspaper of record
I don’t think it’s right to talk about anyone else’s sexuality or gender, whether it’s good or bad. A person’s sexuality and gender are personal things, and nobody deserves to have it talked about publicly. Whether it’s about Taylor or the “weird kid” in school nobody talks to - it doesn’t matter - it’s the same thing.
@scrubbles
NYT has become a tabloid.NYT has some serious issues with LGBTQ+ topics. The whole trans saga was atrocious.
You can’t control what people say about you, or if they say things about you. But y’all are free to be upset for no reason.
