• hydrospanner@lemmy.world
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      10 months ago

      They literally said that was the acceptable range.

      You said your SO fails within that range.

      Ergo, that’s acceptable.

      …as the original comment said, “Shit’s not hard.”

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        10 months ago

        But 10 years ago when we met it would have been outside that range.

        Half my age plus 7 would have been 4.5 years older then her age then. How can it be acceptable now, but not then?

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          That’s literally how the formula is intended to work, since any given age difference means less the older the two parties are (ie. a 40 year old married to a 50 year old is no big deal, but that same couple at 16 age 26 years old is creepy, and illegally so).

          If your partner was 4.5 years outside of the formula range when you met (and assuming when you met is when you started dating…not some stupid gotcha like “we met at church when I was a teenager and they were a young child, and we didn’t see each other romantically for another 15 years! Haha!”) it’s probably a situation where it was indeed eyebrow raising when you started dating.