• the_itsb (she/her)@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Does your stepson have a therapist he trusts? ADHD diagnosis and medication helped with school, but finally getting the right fit with a therapist made such a huge difference with my teen’s social life and rapport with me and his dad. I know therapy can be crazy expected, but we found a person through Open Path Collective that does telehealth, and it’s much more affordable and convenient.

    I hope things get easier between you all and that he realizes how much you care about him and want to help. ❤️ Teens can be so difficult but so fucking cool, it’s such a privilege to watch them develop as people.

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        1 year ago

        Second to last paragraph hit home, ngl. I have adhd, gad, szpd and depression, my mum has adhd and probably either BPD or depression but refuses treatment. For a while there during the pandemic we were like oil and water. So, I can relate to your step kid.

        We’re doing much better now, but it took some time. Not sure where the rift is between your step kid and your partner, mine was values with my mum. It took boundaries being drawn by me for our relationship to get better. After it got better I started going to therapy, and my shrink hasn’t suggested a better way to deal with the situation so, yeah. Not sure if this is any help but, yeah.

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            1 year ago

            Oof, sounds like a tough situation, man. Little guy has a lot of growing up to do, still. How long ago was his last psych test? 'cus I do the shutting myself up in my room. Shrink tells me it’s because of my szpd. If he’s got that, that would make his emotional situation a tad bit more understandable. It usually starts showing up after 11 years, and is expressed more often in males. There’s little more to do with it other than CBT, if the patient thinks it ought to be fixed.

            Speaking of CBT, might be something worth looking into. Haven’t tried it myself, at least, not guided by a professional, but I’ve heard great things about it. Best of luck, man. Glad to hear you’re trying your best to help the kid, too many ND kids go without.

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      This so much. I was diagnosed at 6, put on meds, and expected to function. Things improved enough for my grades to go up but not enough to have basic social function. I was still miserable.