• the_itsb (she/her)@lemmy.world
      7·
      1 year ago

      Does your stepson have a therapist he trusts? ADHD diagnosis and medication helped with school, but finally getting the right fit with a therapist made such a huge difference with my teen’s social life and rapport with me and his dad. I know therapy can be crazy expected, but we found a person through Open Path Collective that does telehealth, and it’s much more affordable and convenient.

      I hope things get easier between you all and that he realizes how much you care about him and want to help. ❤️ Teens can be so difficult but so fucking cool, it’s such a privilege to watch them develop as people.

        • Moonguide@lemmy.world
          2·
          1 year ago

          Second to last paragraph hit home, ngl. I have adhd, gad, szpd and depression, my mum has adhd and probably either BPD or depression but refuses treatment. For a while there during the pandemic we were like oil and water. So, I can relate to your step kid.

          We’re doing much better now, but it took some time. Not sure where the rift is between your step kid and your partner, mine was values with my mum. It took boundaries being drawn by me for our relationship to get better. After it got better I started going to therapy, and my shrink hasn’t suggested a better way to deal with the situation so, yeah. Not sure if this is any help but, yeah.

            • Moonguide@lemmy.world
              2·
              1 year ago

              Oof, sounds like a tough situation, man. Little guy has a lot of growing up to do, still. How long ago was his last psych test? 'cus I do the shutting myself up in my room. Shrink tells me it’s because of my szpd. If he’s got that, that would make his emotional situation a tad bit more understandable. It usually starts showing up after 11 years, and is expressed more often in males. There’s little more to do with it other than CBT, if the patient thinks it ought to be fixed.

              Speaking of CBT, might be something worth looking into. Haven’t tried it myself, at least, not guided by a professional, but I’ve heard great things about it. Best of luck, man. Glad to hear you’re trying your best to help the kid, too many ND kids go without.

      • BornVolcano@lemmy.world
        2·
        1 year ago

        This so much. I was diagnosed at 6, put on meds, and expected to function. Things improved enough for my grades to go up but not enough to have basic social function. I was still miserable.

    • blueskiesoc@lemmy.world
      2·
      1 year ago

      I got along just fine until college when I dropped out after the first year since I couldn’t coast by with great test skills and doing basic homework for high school…

      Oh hell yeah. Honors student to failing out of my first year of college. Fuck. I went back years later, but that first time was a helluva wake up call.

  • golamas1999@lemmy.worldEnglish
    10·
    1 year ago

    True for any mental illness. My dad will give financial support for therapy but then make me feel like shit for needing it.

    • dparanoidandroid@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
      4·
      1 year ago

      Thank you for the heads up, I just edited it. It took me a second since Memmy didn’t let me edit the title, had to login via the web page for that. I’m still new to the fediverse.

  • Kora@lemmy.worldEnglish
    6·
    1 year ago

    This could easily be a cross-Lemmy of kids with narcissistic parents starter packs

  • 👁️👄👁️@lemm.eeEnglish
    5·
    1 year ago

    Same tho, except I never was taken to a psychologist:(

    When I finally went to a psychotherapist as an adult, they knew like as soon as I walked in from my bouncing, speech, and body language.

      • LegendofDragoon@kbin.social
        6·
        1 year ago

        Man the self laothing still comes, even if you were diagnosed. I was on meds only for a very short time. Money and all that because the pills were expensive on my family’s insurance.

        So yeah, I grew up knowing what was wrong and trying so hard to just seem almost normal on the surface, and now that I’m older and have my own decent insurance I’m scared of who or what I’ll be if I ever get back on the pills.

        So yeah, yay self loathing.

        • Sanguinius@lemmy.worldEnglish
          2·
          1 year ago

          36 here and 20 years after diagnosis. Somehow my brain still believes it’s a personal failing. At least we’re not alone!

          I took dexadrine for 10 of them and I didn’t feel Like a different person… I wouldn’t worry about it, it might make a big difference for you. Also therapy is pretty neat.