We met like four years ago and have gotten to know each other since then. We talk about our lives, work, struggles, relationships, video games, music, et cetera. Sometimes, though, I feel like this friendship shouldn’t exist because people may find it strange that I am friends with someone 14 years older than me. What do you think?

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    Sorry, but that actually is kinda weird and I’d consider concerning. By all means your relationship may be “fine” on the surface but it’s in the realms of potential grooming dynamics.

    I’m sure due to Lemmy’s vacuum chamber my opinion is likely going to be unpopular here.

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      Lol grooming a 21yo?!?? Do you even hear yourself? Girl can drink but has so little agency she can be groomed?

      Can’t blame Lemmy just cuz u have shit opinions.

      Lmfao. Clown

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        Yikes, drinking = absolute maturity to you? That’s your level of being able to consent and be of age?

        Check yourself.

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          Lmfao your reading comprehension is shit if that’s what you think I said. On what planet is a 21 not able to act like her own adult self without some asshole like you thinking she’s a fragile little creature. Grow up and get over your Disney white knight fantasy you utter child.

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            Imagine not being able to have an argument without insulting the other party. How childish of you. Maybe you should actually reflect on how much of a child you are.

            Always the angry keyboard warriors that think everyone else is the thing they really are. Grow up and learn that people all don’t think like you you Disney White Knight keyboard warrior child.

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      I’m married and and the 2 young women are lesbians and are in a relationship together. There is no grooming of any kind going on. We just enjoy talking. Not every interaction between men and women has to be sexual and it’s gross you think that it does.

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        11 months ago

        More context changes the story. I didn’t speak on absolutes and in your statement of given context, I’ll stand by mine.

        With that, it’s fine.

        And yes, I believe looking at the first picture you painted, the public should errr on the side of caution and questioning. By all means, not drive in ends but choose to question things at the least.

        And no I didn’t sexualise the girls I put it on the male in that power dynamic. You came to a conclusion just as quick as I did, kinda making it look like you wanted to bait someone into that. Or more so, looking for others to try justify your actions.

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          I wasn’t doing either of those things. I added my comment because it is similar to the op and you 100% did make my comment sexual simply because of the genders involved. My comment did not require any extra context until you tried to make it seem like I was an evil sexual predator, just itching to trick a younger person into having sex with me which says more about you than it does me.