• TrickDacy@lemmy.world
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    Honestly who gives a shit if someone thinks you’re gay?

    Especially when it’s because of something fucking stupid.

    I think what this means is that a lot of men out there secretly fear being gay more than anything else.

    A few years ago some redneck moron screamed at me from his enormous diesel truck “f*****” when I was walking with the girl I was boning at the time. What I translated it to was “you look physically fit and it angers me that I look much worse than you, especially because I wish I could sleep with a woman who looks like that.” It actually was kind of flattering even though they wanted to hurt me.

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      Exactly. As a gay dude, I’m afraid of being perceived as gay because of violent homophobes. Other guys are afraid of being perceived as gay because they are homophobic. We are not the same.

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          Yee, just agreeing with you. Sorry if it doesn’t make sense, I’m super tired lmao.

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      Can confirm as a pervert whose gone to “adult video stores,” a LOT of the people who are loudly and violently anti-gay in public can be found lurking in the dark halls of the booths.

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      i agree, who cares. unfortunately some people do, and do a hatecrime because of it.

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    I just went shopping with my wife to Anthropologie and I picked up a shawl for myself because it’s cold as fuck in Wyoming (most years) and that shawl is cozy/comfy as fuck. If that makes me gay, then at least I’ll be warm and gay.

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      So imagine that, but with clothes/PJs/etc. Like I never knew things could feel so cozy. You know that stereotypical Hallmark, dog-in-front-of-the-fireplace-in-silk-pajamas? This is obtainable for all of us.

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      It’s not being warm that makes you gay, it’s buying a shawl from Anthropologie.

      Real men wear scarves from K-Mart.

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        Due to my ignorance I called it a shawl. It seems it’s a “long cardigan sweater”. So, a sweater with oversized neck that acts like a scarf, but it’s almost as long as a duster (reaches my calves and I am 5’11").

        PS: Are there any Kmart stores left open?

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    There is no greater show of dominance than penetrating another man’s rectum. All true alphas know this. Betas fear they’ll like it.

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      Another Elon must be playing 4d chess comment. It’s not that his PR team tricked nerds and later popular culture into thinking he’s a revolutionary Iron Man smart boy, it’s that he’s playing a character. It’s satire.

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      Sounds plausible, but I feel like it’s just him, especially considering his narcissistic tendencies toward companies he’s owned and had to have the title of founder as if he made those widgets himself

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    I think this may be a result of not wanting to lose some male privilege. Caring about others in a passive way that isn’t aggressive or violent is seen as feminine, so they would be lowering their social status. It’s ridiculous that that could be the case. We really need to destruct gender-based privilege.

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    Let me fix that for you, the overwhelming majority of straight men in medieval/renaissance times in Europe (judging from the ethnicity of the painting and the blue fleur de lis pattern) were agricultural peasants, who dressed in mostly filthy tunics/coifs and if they were lucky, boots, and ate hard bread and vegetables, very rarely meat.

    Some of them were a little better off and wore armor.

    The 1% ultra wealthy dressed like in the picture. So I’m deducing what this picture calls straight actually means very wealthy. Some of the very wealthy were famously gay too so it doesn’t actually make sense.

    It comes off as bigoted because the author seems like he really wanted to make a generalization against straight people, when actually, it’s a minority of people who have this attitude, certainly not representative of straight sexuality, or even men in general. i guess it isn’t bigotry when it’s against a non minority group, right op ?

    Your own internalized bigotry missed the opportunity to make a good point about not using bigotry to prevent oneself from doing their part for climate change. This us vs them mentality is exactly the reason why climate change is a divisive issue and you’re contributing to that divisiveness.

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        I envy your ability to be able to focus so specifically on what you’re looking to hear, but yes. Not all men is part of the message. Not the whole message, but definitely a part of it.

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      Are you talking about the meme as a whole or the article snippet?

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        I honestly don’t care about the opinion in the snippet. It’s not meaningful the amount of people not using reusable bags because it’s seen as gay. They exist, but they’re not statistically meaningful at all. It’s irrelevant.

        Plus anyone who says new research has been published and makes a statement without publishing such research is not to be taken seriously. I found the study they were talking about, Gender Bending and Gender Conformity: The Social Consequences of Engaging in Feminine and Masculine Pro-Environmental Behaviors. Basically this conclusion was reached on a self assessment study, based on 150 people reading six short stories of “a day in the live of” and some online written questionnaire. I’ll leave you to it to determine how seriously you think this study demonstrates the aforementioned conclusion.

        I’m talking specifically about the bigotry behind the meme. Trying to pigeonhole people with a false equivalency like that.

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        Correction being openly gay would get you hung.

        Living together with your Sapphic roommate your entire life was perfectly acceptable.