• Nepenthe@kbin.social
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        No, a burrito to the face is physical abuse. Being verbally and physically abused every day of your job is not how jobs are supposed to work, and viewing things like that as silly small things to be affected by is itself pretty damaging.

        If I lean across the counter and punch you in the head, you’re allowed to have some kind of feeling about that. Especially in a setting that heavily discourages and may even punish defending yourself, the way retail often does.

        Convincing yourself it’s fine because the world is cruel keeps the world cruel. More importantly, it keeps you from considering you deserve anything other than cruelty. We need to care about each other.

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            1 year ago

            Never worked in those type of environment huh? Those kinds of work wear you down little every shift, and shit like this mess with you.

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            but therapy for food in the face is weakness.

            Ok. Weak people exist. Hell, we all have some weaknesses. Is acknowledging them and working to improve not the right thing to do?

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      11 months ago

      One-time verbal abuse from a stranger is not traumatizing, and neither is thrown food.

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          11 months ago

          Nope, but any one-time interaction with a stranger that doesn’t result in injury is not traumatizing for the vast majority of people. If it is, that just indicates they should have been in therapy already.

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            11 months ago

            My point is you can’t judge the people involved without knowing the people involved, or at least what happened. It’s kinda unreasonable to assume that everyone involved is perfectly average because a significant chunk of the population isn’t part of “the vast majority.”