• Underwaterbob@lemm.ee
    link
    fedilink
    arrow-up
    17
    ·
    1 year ago

    I don’t see how any of that is objective aside from it being the most commonly accepted, or “pushed” in your words.

    A successful two person relationship requires a significant amount of compromise and sacrifice. How does having more partners lessen that?

      • Underwaterbob@lemm.ee
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        9
        ·
        1 year ago

        it doesnt but you dont have to worry about monogamy-only rules like dont do this and dont do that, which is exclusive to monogamy. which makes it objectively worse since you dont have to worry about that in other relationships.

        All of the others - short of anarchy - also have their rules. For example, polyfidelity is nearly identical to monoamory except you now have to consider the dos and don’ts of both of your partners making it objectively more complicated than monoamory.

      • sanpedropeddler@sh.itjust.works
        link
        fedilink
        arrow-up
        6
        ·
        1 year ago

        That’s not a rule to get around, its called respecting your partners wishes. Its a basic common decency regardless of how many partners you have.

          • sanpedropeddler@sh.itjust.works
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            6
            ·
            1 year ago

            It does not impact your freedoms. Its not like you literally can’t cheat, you just cant cheat and continue a relationship with them. Everyone has their own terms. Yeah, if you can’t handle not cheating, then don’t date a person that wants a monogamous relationship. It doesn’t mean its “inferior”, it just means you don’t want it. Grow up.

              • sanpedropeddler@sh.itjust.works
                link
                fedilink
                arrow-up
                3
                ·
                1 year ago

                You are acting childish because you are claiming relationships you don’t like are automatically inferior to those you do like. I don’t care what kind of relationship you prefer, its irrelevant. Yes. Grow up.

                  • sanpedropeddler@sh.itjust.works
                    link
                    fedilink
                    arrow-up
                    2
                    ·
                    1 year ago

                    There is nothing to prove you wrong with because its an opinion. I never said you were wrong, its just overzealous to declare your opinion as the ultimate truth. I have said this multiple times, I absolutely do not give a shit about your opinion on relationships. You have made it overwhelmingly clear that your opinion isn’t worth much anyway. Not to mention the fact that I haven’t even stated my opinion on the subject yet. The truth is, I don’t even know what relationship style I prefer. I’ve only tried one, so instead of declaring myself benevolent dictator of love to feel like I’m worth something, I accept that I have limited experience with the subject. If you haven’t gotten the point yet, then there isn’t much I can do to help you. Based on how you act, I’m guessing you’re very young, so hopefully you’ll figure it out when you actually do grow up.

          • L/nerd
            link
            fedilink
            arrow-up
            3
            ·
            1 year ago

            So what you’re telling me is that you have conditions for your relationships?

      • miaapancake@lemmy.world
        link
        fedilink
        English
        arrow-up
        5
        ·
        1 year ago

        Having had both types of relationship. This is such backwards thinking, with most poly relationships you will have to make severe sacrifices to the time spent with most of your partners, and often end up with more non romantic relationships. Breakups are more complicated. Not to mention how much more communication it requires to keep together. Calling that anything but a major compromise is just lying. I am not saying any type of relationship is more valid. But that they all come with different compromises which work better for different kinds of people. Just because it works better for you doesn’t mean it does for everyone.