I just want to vent a bit - I started seeing someone a few weeks ago. Old fling that I ran into through some friends that got rekindled, and I was excited that it seemed like more than just casual hookups this time. But there were some yellow flags I ignored that turned out to be red flags, and now I’m feeling frustrated and hurt.

Dude for real dropped the line that men are more “capable” and “logical” on me. That gender studies are “indoctrination.” I told him we should probably stop seeing each other if that’s really what he thinks. It wouldn’t be logical for me to keep seeing someone that thinks lesser of me, now, would it?

I’m grateful to have some guy friends that I turned to after I left, cuz I wanted to go into “fuck all men” mode, but I know it’s not true or helpful. Just like there are women out there that have internalized misogyny, there’s feminist men, enbies, etc. We’re all just people and we’re not monoliths beholden to differences in biology. This is just sexist, manosphere bullshit in particular

Anyway. I’m still feeling angry and wanted to put it out there for some support and solidarity. Anyone have a recent win they’d like to share or something?

ETA: Thank you so much for the conversation y’all! I’ve been trying to keep up but I gotta get some sleep. I’ll check in later but hope everyone has a good day. Keep up the empowerment! 💜

  • SaakoPaahtaa@lemmy.worldEnglish
    29·
    1 year ago

    It’s so fucking tiring. Youtube is constantly pushing that shit to me for some reason so idk if it’s really so widespread or if the Algo thinks I’d fall for it

    • protist@mander.xyzEnglish
      6·
      1 year ago

      There are people and groups paying big money to put those ads in front of as many eyes as possible

    • thisbenzingring@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish
      5·
      1 year ago

      I have had a youtube account for a very long time, I mostly use it for music and how to videos. I don’t watch any of the political talking heads or life coaches or influencers. But if I leave autoplay on and don’t create my own playlist, it only takes 3 or 4 videos until it starts suggesting or even inserting these bullshit fucking videos into my list.

      I avoid youtube because of it. If I go there to watch something, its because I am looking for that video alone and never spend time watching anything random. I cringe so hard when my nieces and nephew watch it and I can see some of these snakeoil fuckheads in their suggested videos list.