This post is mostly intented for plural systems, but I’m open to anyone responding as well, even if you aren’t plural. It’s nice to hear from another perspective outside our community.
When you have more than one selves within the same body, it’s fair to say that the pronoun “I” may not be enough sometimes. After all, if you share your body with more than one selves, some of the things your body does would technically be done by all of your selves.
For example, as a plural system myself, whenever I go anywhere, technically all my headmates (or another selves) will also go with me since we share the same body. If the body goes somewhere, everyone goes along with it. With that, some stuff about us can’t be described with just “I.” Think of how I’ve been using “we,” “us,” and “our” throughout this post.
So, if you’re plural yourself, do you also use plural pronouns the same way we do? When do you use “we” to describe yourself? And when do you use “I” to describe yourself?
For me at least, I usually use singular pronouns for stuff like opinions, since every one of us have differing opinions (even if we share the same body!). For example, I am writing most of this text alone, so I use singular first person.
But, for stuff all of us agree on, stuff written by more than one headmates, or stuff involving multiple headmates, I often use plural pronouns like “we” since it involves more than one of us. I also use we for the more formal stuff. In a way, it’s kind of like using royal/formal we.
Honestly, being more than one in the same body presents a lot of weird and interesting quirks, and this is just one of them.
And, if you’re not plural or don’t understand what’s going on here (that’s understandable), how often do you use royal/formal we to describe yourself? If you’re the sole moderator of a community on lemmy or someplace else, do you use “we” for moderator announcements to sound more formal?
This is a screenshot of the chat between my wife and I where I searched for the term “Wir lieben dich” (we love you), which yields 879 results over the course of many years.
I have a rule to always use “I” instead of “we” anywhere in public, though. I don’t want to attract attention and I don’t want to tell everybody everytime, like many others seem to do.
To be honest, we rarely use “we” in public either, outside of plural-friendly spaces like this community and other similar ones on another site, even then it’s mostly online. But internally, we use ‘we’ a lot when talking between headmates, which makes sense.