Part of the reason I find Lemmy enjoyable is I don’t have to worry about bullshit just to throw a comment in. I rarely post, but I have fun commenting stupid crap here and there to pass the time. Not once has anyone been a total dick, maybe a partial chub, but nothing I don’t already expect
Yeah, the dread of seeing a new notification in the inbox turns out to be something pretty chill surprisingly often
Exactly!
I still had the dread before opening this. Wonder if that ever goes away
Psst…im in your inbox…feeling the same dread. (Please dont reply, i might not be ready for another reply yet 😆)
I hope your day is wonderful
ANGRY LOOKING ALL CAPS REPLY!!!
Nice comment bro.
You can’t tell me what to do!
Only way to know is to try it again! Soooo hopefully I didn’t give you too much dread 😅
It’s basic fear response conditioning, I doubt it ever fully goes away because being cautious of the unknown is a very successful survival trait.
Basically every time you open that inbox you’d have to lie to yourself into believing that a negative response is an impossibility. Good luck, if you figure it out let me know.
UR FACE IS PRETTY CHILL
I blocked the notification with uBlock and just pretend nobody ever reads or comments on my comments. You can say whatever you want if nobody is around to hear it.
Not having a global karma score that is require to post in different subreddits helps too.
Depends on the subject. Try to criticize left wing subjects and see what happens.
I’ve seen left-wingers and communists attacked by ‘tankies’
Yeah that too.
That’s really been one of the reasons I’ve always just been a lurker on social media. The fediverse spaces I’m in (lemmy/mastodon) have been great so far. I didn’t really have any expectations but the experience has been good for me and I hope for everyone else!
I find you can talk a little more recreationally here. Can say some stupid stuff and it’s not attacked immediately.
Not everything someone comments should be taken 100% seriously, but there is obviously lines that can’t be touched either.
This really gets to the heart of it, speaking recreationally is perfectly acceptable and it seems hate just for having an opinion is much lower
It’s small enough that I can say something mildly controversial without getting dogpiled by a mob from /r/SomeEchoChamber
I wouldn’t know about controversial haha, I mostly comment for fun, but there does seem to be an acceptance of the fact we are all sharing the same house, might as well make nice
i think this is my third commemt, already almost equal to the amount i made on reddit in all those years i was there.
Love to see it! Welcome to the party! Honestly this is the most I’ve really done anything on social media stuff so I totally get it.
I find myself commenting more frequently on Lemmy as well. I attribute it to there being less comments in general so less has already been said. By the time a post shows my reddit feed there’s already hundreds of comments and the discussion is already pretty well laid out. At that point I don’t really have anything meaningful to add.
dang I had over a thousand comments on Reddit so I have a while to go
Man I have to say I am not a fan of the ol’ burned toast there. Much prefer slightly under-done if anything
Hello I am here replying
Thank you for participating in the Lemmy reply social experiment! Your reply has received a reply!
I’m replying to your reply.
Your reply has been acknowledged with a reply. Thank you for your service!
Hey, thanks for the reply. If you’re in the states happy Thanksgiving!
I am! Happy Thanksgiving to you as well if you’re also here!
and even worse, sometimes they even reply days later!
Sorry, replying a day later! There’s been much more going on with this post than I expected!
don’t worry about it. I understand
You all good, I got you fam! 😅
cheers!
Welcome welcome!
you replied too quickly! You’ve ruined it now.
I always want to comment but notifications can be so stressful that on most platforms I usually end up just lurking. Lemmys been pretty decent so far, it reminds a little of early internet messageboards where most people were more into discussing something interesting than trolling or one-uping someone for internet points or ego boosts or whatever weird reasons people are assholes on the internet. It’s probably the least toxic platform I’ve been on since the livejournal days
I’ve learned to no longer fear comment notifications thanks to Lemmy. It still has some assholes, but people tend to pile on and call them out on their bad behavior. It’s nice, I like it here.
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But then I’d never see your amazing advice! Although, would I have needed the advice in the first place?
You can still check back on conversations that interest you, you just don’t have to deal with the rest… 👍
To be completely honest, on kbin blocking someone doesn’t stop the notification coming through when they reply, and switching off notifications was the easiest way around that. This has probably been fixed already, and may be completely different on lemmy, but I actually prefer it this way. The only disadvantage I can think of is potentially missing replies to older conversations (and if I really must know, I can always scroll back my profile and find it, though I’ve not had that need yet), but I guess that’s a price I’m willing to pay to avoid those anxiety inducing little fuckers that are notifications… 😂
Yeah I have accounts in various places but have mostly lurked around here. Didn’t realize I had some form of anxiety until I realized how stressed I get posting or responding to things or getting notifications. Slooowwlly getting over it. How to people just throw stuff out there and feel nothing??
I don’t know about you, but for me it’s the intrusion, I’m not always free or in a frame of mind to have certain, or even any, conversations, and notifications intrude on that, and ignoring them can be hard. I’d rather be in control of what conversations I have and when.
It also helps to remember that at the end of the day people on the internet are generally random strangers to each other, and none of us owe each other our attention, time, or energy.
I don’t really see it as anything I need to get over, but if it bothers you taking it slow and steady is the way to go!
Yeah for me it’s really gotten easier since I’ve started doing streaming games online and talking with various people and stuff. Having people come and go and figuring out when someone is being kind or rude has helped a lot for figuring out when to engage, avoid, and even remove.
It’s easy for me to ignore different comments and just let it be, but I do really think about what I say before throwing it out there which is most of the stress, but it’s always getting better!
Sounds like you’ve figured out some great ways to work on the stress aspect - the fact that it gets easier is fantastic!
Yeah it feels like I’m just responding to everything now! I don’t even know who I am anymore
I did this on reddit for comments I knew would be a shitshow, just drop brutal fire, set to no notifications, post. Let the haters spew and I’m just kicking back on the next conversation.
There isn’t much I miss about reddit, but that is definitely one of the things I wish we had here…
It makes me sad I don’t always get notifications when I get a reply 😢 I want to reply and contribute!
But switching off notifications doesn’t stop you from replying or contributing… ¯_(ツ)_/¯
Lurkers using third party apps were in many ways worse impacted by the API changes than those actively participating. The high cost of API access is only worth as much value as the service is to you, and if lurking that’s going to be lower and less likely to be worthwhile in the few third party apps switching to the subscription model.
I was a lurker on the first-party reddit app for the 99.9% of the time I was on there. The ads had just gotten out of hand with not being able to block an ad to get a different ad, I was so tired of getting “He Gets Us” trash so I switched over to Apollo. A week later they announced the API changes. I work in software dev so it’s just frustrating seeing this happen to all of the people out there trying to support their hard work.
Yep, I used Relay Pro previously but seeing the cost breakdowns the dev posted for the new subscription was disheartening. The dev’s portion of the subscription fee is near zero if you use near the limit of you subscription’s monthly API requests. So at that point even subscribing isn’t really supporting the dev as much as supporting the company that forced these changes upon us. So I chose to not take part.
Lemmy definitely isn’t perfect, especially for smaller communities. But it’s definitely workable and something I’m happy to contribute to.
Yeah Reddit really made the cost just impossible for any slightly active app unable to continue without any form of meaningful profit. I would have loved to support whatever Third Party app but yeah wouldn’t have been enough to keep them afloat.
For Lemmy not being perfect, it feels like it’s just more of a number of users issue vs an actual technical problem. Sure fediverse stuff can be complicated, but after signing up and searching communities you can pretty much do some normal Reddit feeling stuff IMO. I’m trying to revive the Twitch Lemmy community if anyone wants to help with that (I have no clue what to do)!
Edit: also adding that I didn’t think about moderation or tools that Lemmy may or may not have in place since I’ve never been a mod for any of that. So maybe a technical problem somewhere.
I lurked on the reddit app for a year or more before I started contributing. One of the first things I learned about ‘internet forums’, is that you lurk first, until you get a feel for the community. I began contributing more because the 3rd party app I started using had me more engaged; which meant that reddit gained more content
But Reddit made the API changes for 3rd party apps unsustainable, to push people toward their own ad revenue. They assume that they’re too important to fail, and that the loss of users/content was worth the squeeze of those who didn’t know how to leave. A standard cost-risk scenario. It’s a short-term goal to try and carve out a piece of the centralized internet that the big corps envision. A move toward trying to win at monopoly
The “forum” is a relationship between “user contribution” and the host’s ‘personal time, money, effort’… a personal cost-risk for anyone that hosts. Is it worth my time? Do I enjoy what I’m hosting?
When the goal becomes so obviously “increase host revenue”, without increasing user experience; you create an imbalance.
We all lurk online until we find something we wanna talk about. Reddit was trying to use (is using) their influence to increase profit for themselves, and (the way in which they chose to do so) actively decreasing user experience. The ‘host’ only gave a shit about themselves and decided that user-created content was a ‘benefit’ of being there, rather than the reason.
Lurkers are half of the equation. Lurkers often become contributors when they enjoy the community. Contributors bring more lurkers. That’s kind of how the balance works
Reddit feels they can do without the lurkers who refuse to use their app, while simultaneously increasing ad revenue. And they’ll be fine financially in the same way Facebook is… clinging to the smallest user-base that makes them the most profit, while slowly becoming irrelevant.
Because contributors will move on eventually, and so will the lurkers.
Case-in-point… my comment. I’m a lurker, until I’m not.
I have found the commenters on Lemmy to be far more thoughtful and reasonable even when they are tearing me apart as a human being. Most commenter seem to be really nice and enthusiastic though.
Maybe it’s just a volume thing and we haven’t attracted enough of the shit heads yet to overwhelm every thread with nonsense.
I think those are some pretty fair assumptions. I haven’t been involved in any discussions until now really but people have been kind to me so far. I can be a bit of a goof so nice to know I won’t immediately be attacked for it.
We’ll see what the future of Lemmy will be, but for now things are nice!
Funny how attached people become to numbers in internet.
What’s the exchange rate between Lemmy and reddit karma points?
Whatever it is in our electric skull meat gives us the joy of seeing number go up. The value the number has, that’s another story.
Oh goodness, a Lemmy/Reddit currency exchange sounds like some startup NFT/crypto scheme waiting to happen.
Yeah, wtf! Stop replying to me!
I wouldn’t dream of replying to you, that would be a nightmare to do such a thing that would go against the wishes you have of not being replied to at all, again, a thing I would absolutely not do, as to retain your respect!
Thank you very much for not replying. I really do appreciate it.
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Yeah, I’m just having a bit of fun.
Please don’t screw me though. I don’t think my wife would appreciate it.
I’m gonna reply to you, and you can’t stop me!
Oh no!
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Sorry!
Noooo! Don’t be sorry! Everyone is great!
Well I think you’re pretty neat.
Aww thanks! I’m just being a goof rambling about stuff now.
I approve of that.
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WHAT DID LEMMY DO TO MY DANCING KIRBY??
Late to respond to this but I love the Kirby dance, keep the positive vibes going!
But what if I’m scared to reply?
That’s okay! Nobody is ever pressured to do anything they don’t feel comfortable doing! Take all the time you need or don’t even worry about it.
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You get executed
uhhm actually people never reply
Oh yeah?? Bet you feel pretty stupid right now >:)
no, see here’s the proof:
404 proof not foundcurses
Lawyers hate this one simple trick
Yes we do
We do not! Oh, wait, ya I guess we do.
We couldn’t possibly…that’s…not true. Oh no, what have I done??
We Never Comment! Oh CARP!
That’s fishy…just how deep does this non-comment go?
Lurking in the Pelagic Zone.
Even Christmas themed for the holiday season!
ew, people
