• guyrocket@kbin.social
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      Get some help, my friend. I have found the darkness of depression to be a false darkness. Life can be pretty good, we want you to be there for yours.

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      The hell are you staying with her for? You’ve got one fucking life. Get yourself away from that toxicity and maybe you’ll find life isn’t that bad after all.

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        I agree with the sentiment but it is easier said than done - splitting finances, houses, assets, debts etc is a mahoosive pain in the arse, and may well be perceived as less of an evil than actually putting up with the daily shit.

        Ultimately though I do agree, it doesn’t change without some fundamental movement - either recover what relationship you have with the wife, or start planning a 12 month strat to get your shit in order and pivot to a more single lifestyle for a while.

        Good luck bro/broette. You got this, and we’re happy that you’re here.

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              On the spectrum? Or the dark triad spectrum? Inb4 you tell me she’s a surgeon or one of those insurance mathematicians.

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              Maybe try therapy? Would you she be up for that and would you? Just thinking out loud. There is usually a reason people are indifferent and distant, and if you guys had a setting you could analyze and talk about it, maybe that would be good?

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      There’s still time to make new friends, you just have to discover new places or try to talk with people you never talked much. If you are unhappy with your marriage, you two might possibly need some marriage counseling. An unhappy marriage can make things worse my friend. That’s what I learnt from my dad all these years.