Harping on people to get married from up in the ivory tower fails to engage with reality of life in the dating trenches.

  • mumblerfish@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    That only covers one angle, if people do it for religious reasons, not if they don’t do it because of religion. I’m not getting married, and the religious connotations of even a secular wedding is a significant chunk of why.

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      There’s also a million legal reasons to get married… If there weren’t, same sex marriage would probably have never made it to the Supreme Court. Everything from insurance coverage, employment benefits, credit rating, child custody, transfer of property following death, medical decisions, and a bunch of other very secular, very important benefits are conferred via legal marriage.

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        Is there any way to adapt this better for polyamorous people? I have poly friends that got around it by choosing a primary partner and marrying them, but that seems like a bad solution in the long term.

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          I don’t think that is going to be happening for a long time. It took decades for gays and lesbians. The marrying of a primary partner is the best solution so far.