So basically I said I just wanted space for some time. She took this as that she’s never allowed to talk to me again.
Yesterday her lover(26M), which is also a friend of mine, I’ve known for a long time, came to talk to me and told me this. He also doesn’t want to do anything with me until I start being friends with her again, because he thinks he’s standing between us.
I tried doing activities with both of them together, but somehow it always makes me miserable to see her happy with someone else.
Next week is a festival where we planned to go together and I lined everything up to see how things are going or in which direction we can move from here. For info: Another girl is also going with us I think the dynamic would change a bit. There’s also a lot of other people I know at the festival.
I feel like I should just talk to 20F, but I don’t think I will tell her anything she want’s to hear. So I don’t know if this can improve the situation in any way.
So you told her how you feel, and she told you she doesn’t feel the same. Now she’s dating a mutual friend, and they both want you to be their friend, even though you asked for space.
Is that correct?
Because if so these friends don’t seem to be considering what you need. Your feelings matter, even if they’re inconvenient for them.
Like any other interpersonal relationship concise, honest communication is always the best. Talk to your long time friend first. Once you’ve come to an understanding about your friendship dynamic, and how it relates to her, talk to her.
The end goal is to give yourself what you need to clear your head & heart, so you can move forward, and they can move forward too.
“To thine own self be true.” — Some Dude…