Pretty much title of the post. As nice as memes have been, I’m hoping to make the community more than that, and decided to start off with a simple question relating to asexuality.

For me, I never realized it until after high school when I realized it wasn’t really something that mattered to me much, and it really should have been obvious to me ages back when I only found people to be cute or pretty rather than “hot” like my classmates did in school.

  • AceProgrammer42
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    1 year ago

    I’m aro/ace, and never felt attraction to anyone. Being sex-repulsed, I also had a hard time with the constant stream sexual topics coming up all the time. For the longest time I just felt like something was wrong with me, because no one told me that being aro/ace was an option. Everyone around me was talking about love and sex, and sometimes also asking me about these topics. I just pretended to be straight but “focussing on school and hobbies” so I didn’t" have the time" for a relationship.

    At some point in my early-mid twenties I ran into a survey which listed “asexual” as an option, and I just selected it without really knowing what the exact definition was, because it felt like a perfect description. After this happened another time a few weeks later (I like surveys), I started investigating what it actually meant and finally found my place.

    Discovering being aro/ace actually made me more more positive about sex and romance, even though I’d still never have sex myself. It allowed me to explore this side in much further depth, and to also find the parts that I am more comfortable with

  • Nyla Smokeyface@beehaw.org
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    1 year ago

    I noticed that I didn’t have any interest in sex when I was in middle school but I assumed I was a weird straight person. I knew asexual was a thing but once my mom found out I identified as it and told me I wasn’t and that turned me off from exploring the possibility of being queer for years.

    I was almost 15 when I finally started coming around to the idea that I was asexual. Oddly enough after I identified as ace again I became more open to the idea of having sex. Maybe I’m demi or just a sex favorable ace?