I moved to Seattle for a high-paying tech job. It turned out to be the loneliest time of my life.::After accepting a job at Amazon, Alexander Nguyen moved to Seattle, where he experienced a period of intense loneliness.

  • SeriousBug@infosec.pub
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    1 year ago

    Men will literally write a Business Insider article instead of going to therapy. No really, I feel like this guy could benefit from some therapy.

    It wasn’t until I met a few women on dating apps that I realized being a software engineer in a tech hub is far from special. Working at companies like Amazon or Microsoft just isn’t interesting; it’s the norm here.

    It’s weird to expect that you’d get dates just for being an engineer. What? Like if someone did date you just because you are an engineer, that would be such a shallow relationship.

    I think one big reason for that is software engineering doesn’t require socially demanding skills like in product management or UX design.

    Strongly disagree, software engineering is mostly social skills. It’s all about communicating problems, learning your users pain points, explaining your solutions, and coordinating work. Coding the actual solutions is typically the easy part unless you are doing cutting edge computer science research.

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      1 year ago

      Yeah like I’m sorry but I get laid despite being an engineer. There aren’t women lining up to date us, and those that do learn the error of their ways real fast.

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      1 year ago

      Yeah what. In my experience you won’t get far as a software engineer without those skills unless maybe you’re very highly specialised at which point those skills become highly desirable rather than mandatory.