• kameecoding@programming.dev
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    1 year ago

    while I do not blame my parents, my experience does inform my decision regarding having children, I do not want to create a life that will become self-awareness and has to deal with the idea of inevitable death.

    I also recognize unlike my parents that I am not fit to be a parent, I’d even argue lots of people aren’t.

    • Phoebe@feddit.de
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      1 year ago

      To have children or not is a deeply personal choice ☺️

      And also personal is the search for meaning in ones own existence. While searching we create: life, art, relationships, meaning. Memes. I think life becomes a burden, when external factors keep you from creating the meaning that you care for.

      But speaking as a historian: we put a lot of presure on parents over the last decades. And the same presure on kids. It is relateable that having children or just excisting has become so… whats a fitting english word?.. not desireable?

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        I’m not sure having kids can be said to be “a deeply personal choice”, it has to involve at least two other people, one of whom can’t even express their opinion on the matter while they will be the one to experience the vast majority of the consequences.