• SLaSZT@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    As long as she’s a legal adult within 15 or so years of you, she can’t be too young IMO. If she likes you, that’s her choice. Unless the workplace aspect bothers you, what’s the harm?

    I dunno, I’m 28. I’d date someone who’s 43. Just tossing in my 2 cents.

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      I dated women in their 40s while I was early 20s, we got some funny looks occasionally but generally no-one gave a shit. What two consenting adults do is their own business. Though now I’m in my early 40s, I don’t think I’d have a lot in common with someone at 21; and maintain that just because it’s ‘legal’ doesn’t mean it’s ethical, someone at 18 just does not have the life experience nor fully-formed pre frontal cortex to deal with someone who’s fully-adult. Ripe for abuse imo.

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        Yeah, I completely agree that someone who is 18-20 just doesn’t have the life experience to know a lot about relationships in general.

        My wife dated a guy who was in his mid-40s when she was 18 and, with hindsight, it seems like her inexperience with life, intimacy, and relationships was actually something he was looking for (gross).

        I guess I assumed that the person OP likes is at least in their mid-20s. I mostly added the legal adult part to cover my ass in case a snarky commenter was like, “oh what if she’s 16?” trying to be smart.