- What is your name?
- What is your quest?
- What is the air-speed velocity of an unladen swallow?
What is your favorite color?
The nice thing about using that Monty Python quote is that if I don’t like the answer, I can then mime throwing myself into a chasm, and thus extricate myself from the situation.
What do you mean? An african or european swallow?
[Queue screaming]
What’s the average rainfall in the Amazon basin?
That’s not how you make friends.
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This is an interview💀
Yeah I know not to just come out asking them these three questions. I just had the thought of what kind of questions you could ask to quickly and greatly understand the kind of person in front of you.
Actions speak louder than words. How about three questions to ask yourself?
- Do I feel better when I have been with them?
- Do they respect me?
- Do I respect them?
I recently asked myself similar questions about two friends I knew for about 15 years. I thought I had been close with them, but I quickly answered No to all of them (plus a bunch of follow-ups I asked myself), and realized they were never real friends, or at least hadn’t been for a while, they were just people who were accustomed to seeing me and sometimes making plans together.
I always felt anxious after hanging out with them, never felt like they listened to or cared about anything I said, never remembered my preferences or things about my personal life from visit to visit, never believed me when I said I knew something, etc etc. It’s easy to get used to this kind of thing and to think it’s normal and healthy, but it was so exhausting and frustrating for me that I finally gave up and haven’t talked to them in over a year.
Sometimes these types of questions are super helpful in evaluating longstanding relationships as well as new ones.
But that very impulse is inimical to making friends. You make friends by being open to making friends, and by being interested in other people, regardless of whether they are ‘friend material.’
You shouldn’t even be assuming you know or can predict what makes someone friend material for you. One can be surprised.
Census-based friendship 😂
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What music do you like?
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MAGA?
If you like music, and hate MAGAs, we can be good friends.
If you dont like music, and hate MAGAs, we can probably still be friends.
If you LOVE the music I love, but are MAGA, then you can fuck right off. I don’t hang with Nazis, no matter what your musical tastes are.
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- hey, my name is _____, what’s yours?
- are you looking for new friends?
- great I do _____ on ______ days, would you like to join?
This is great. But how do you deal with people that you’ve invited to an event that’s public, and you didn’t gel with them?
you didn’t gel with them?
Then you don’t become friends with them. If you really want to, just make small talk and be acquaintances.
ASL
17, w, cali
Suddenly feeling old.
40, m, Manchester UK.
Also old, 44/f/usa
How did we get here?
My dad, when I was a kid, used to open the door quickly, look down at my visiting friend and say “Who the hell are you?”
Then he’d shut the door abruptly, wait 3-4 seconds, then open it, laugh, and welcome them in.
If you can do that and they don’t get offended, they’re friend material.
Wide implementation of this technique would certainly explain why anxious/nervous people would have fewer friends.
no.
What brings you happiness or joy in life?
What do you do for fun?
What’s one thing you’d 100% recommend to someone brand new to the world?
What is your favorite deck
What is your favorite joker
What is your favorite spectral card
Enterprise D - I like the carpet.
Heath Ledger.
Immolate - I’m not a destroyer, but $20 is $20.
magic deck
blueprint
ankh
Blue
Hologram
Cryptid
- Either (checkered|erratic|anaglyph)
- (Castle|satellite) for artwork , square joker + pair of trousers combo bcus most runs end up playing 2 pairs
- Cryptid
Red
Batter
Shit I can’t remember most of them, but the “add 3 enchanted aces” is pretty solid (that is a spectral effect, right?)
As you might be able to tell, I play pretty conservatively. Though that might change once I’ve unlocked more.
The one I imagine where every right wing conservative is given a haymaker of justice.
The original tv Batman series was great growing up.
I’m too much of a nerd to understand - is this all a balatro reference?
- of cards
- any that isn’t folie a deux
- not sure what you mean
- Do you like Anime?
- Do you like Attack on Titan/Death Note?
- What do you think about Eren/Light?
Yes, but I haven’t watched a ton.
Those two are my favorites of what I’ve seen (outside of Ghibli, which I feel like is a category unto itself).
I haven’t seen the last season of Attack on Titan, so don’t spoil it, but I feel like Eren is complicated enough that I’m not going to form a full opinion until I see how it plays out. Light, however, I think is an irredeemable sociopath that justified his murderlust by going after socially convenient targets until he decided it didn’t matter anymore, and began to think of himself as a god.
Fucking excellent storytelling, but I didn’t care for the L replacement kid
Congratulations! Now we can play SoulCalibur together.
Which game is your favorite, who is your favorite character, and do you only know their longest combo?
Joke’s on you! I don’t memorize any combo!
I’m a ✨“Vibe Fighter”✨ (I’m really bad, but I don’t care)
Do you mean to tell me you’re just trying to have fun when you play games?
Mea Culpa. Please, forgive this filthy sinner 🙇
I’ve never played, what do I need to know?
Is a fighting game with weapons. The original Kratos is in, along side with Yoda from Star Wars.
That sounds fun!
What’s your favorite rock?
What is the strangest food you’ve ever tried?
What kind of nerd are you?
I’d say Hard Rock or Llanite.
Octopus rolls at a sushi bar. I wasn’t a fan of it. It’s too chewy for me.
I’m a well rounded nerd IMO. I’m into video games of all kinds, movies, TV shows and lore from Warhammer 40k.
How about yourself?
lore from Warhammer 40k.
We are the Hammer
I need to know whether they like animals.
Just be interested and ask them questions about their life and hobbies and see if they do the same.
It’s a starting place. The rest depends on building trust and respect and common interests.
Oof. Guys be interested in people i don’t know anything about… In this day and age?
Fuuuuuuuxk im cooked
My only question is “What are the four essential freedoms of free software?”. If they can list them I know they’re alright
- Free
- Open
- Source
- Software
- Free as a bird, and this bird you cannot change
- Free to do what I want, any old time
- Free ride, take it easy
- Ok I ran out of songs now. Free as in
malloc?
Close enough, you’re cool. Here’s the actual list though (wiki link):
- Freedom 0: The freedom to use the program for any purpose.
- Freedom 1: The freedom to study how the program works, and change it to make it do what you wish.
- Freedom 2: The freedom to redistribute and make copies so you can help your neighbor.
- Freedom 3: The freedom to improve the program, and release your improvements (and modified versions in general) to the public, so that the whole community benefits.
Hehe, I was just poking fun. I love FOSS and don’t disagree intellectually with this stuff, but the way it’s presented is a little off-putting to me. A bit too dogmatic for me.
The one I thought of was actually “What do you think about astrology?”
The answer I am looking for is neither that they believe or don’t believe it, I want to hear something between. Something like
“It’s fun! I love seeing the connections between people born with similar birthdays and stuff, and honestly it does seem accurate sometimes. But also I don’t live by it! What about you?”
This open, honest way of communicating is what’s important. Didn’t knock the idea down or support it 100%, just approached with an open mind.
Having an open mind is great and all, but once you’ve gathered enough information to take a position you’re not obligated to coddle those who remain willfully ignorant. I’ve personally never found astrology “fun,” it’s stupid woo that encourages people to adopt other stupid woo. At a time when anti-intellectualism is being institutionalized into government policy (in the US at least,) I don’t see how anyone in good faith can actively encourage that.
I don’t take astrology that seriously, it’s more of a conversation starter or a tool for introspection. Sometimes I see things about my birthdate that help me notice new things about myself, and sometimes it just seems made up.
Connecting astrology to anti-intellectualism is a pretty big reach in my opinion. I don’t think the ideas of astrology, religion, magic, etc should be applied to policy that impacts anybody else.
But, magical thinking can creep into policy, often with disastrous results.
A more solid footing can be achieved by consulting science educators, for perspective about our place in the universe.
I see your point - but there’s always going to be questions science can’t answer because science is based only on what we can observe and measure.
A big one is “where did everything come from”
So I don’t see a way of avoiding magical or spiritual thinking - it’s likely more important to separate that from fact when making decisions that effect more than just you :)
Sometimes knocking an idea down is justified, especially in the case of astrology.
Why? I don’t see how astrology hurts anybody (unless people take it to extremes, like not dating someone because of their signs or something like that.)
My answer would be something along the lines of: I think astrology is vague enough to apply pretty generally, but the interesting thing about it is seeing people’s reactions. It’s a social placebo, and we can see how different people read into the same thing. “A new experience awaits you, Aries” and we see one person anticipating a raise a work, and thus behaving more confidently and getting it, while another is expecting divorce papers, and their behavior is helping them to reach that goal, too.
Pretty fair view on astrology! I have some friends/family members who have very close birthdays and it’s actually remarkable how similar they are in certain ways. I feel like I typically see the similarities in the way they handle things like relationships, power dynamics, confidence, and they sort of thing.
For example I know many Geminis, and one pattern I’ve noticed is that they are all passive aggressive types. Like they won’t tell you about a problem until it’s too late, and then they will boil over and you’ll end up in a fight about something that could have been resolved so much easier.
Could that be confirmation bias on my part? Definitely. But still it’s a fun tool for introspection if you don’t take it too far :) I also like to think of the history behind it and how humans developed it in such a human way just from observations.
What’s your religion if any? What’s your political views if any? And what’s your top three hobbies? :)
