People are always going to complain about stuff

I cannot emphasise this enough - yes, there are real problems, too. But our senses might be overtuned to find reasons of “why don’t people join.” One big part of the reality is - most people don’t like unfamiliar things and will rationalise their intuitive disliking with any arguments, often even ones they haven’t experienced themselves, but heard about.

Again - not saying there aren’t problems that need addressing, but there’s a real risk of needlessly internalising every bad thing said about Lemmy, when it may sometimes just be unfounded, intuitive dislike instead of proper thought out critique.