I’m a grumpy old-inneial, and I dumped them a while ago.
The big reason is they’ve become fucking awful exploitative shitshows. Paywalls for everything, nonstop popups to buy shit, push notifications about things that you should pay for, fake messages that there’s “waiting matches” if I just pay $39.95, and the dark pattern bullshit you expect off scam websites: limited time sales, limited volume sales, ‘act now or it’s gone forever’ nonsense.
And, if that wasn’t bad enough, what you would get, if you paid for it, is flakes, fakes, scammers, and catfishers. Like, while hovering in the free pity-zone you get, I got a ton of matches. I’d say out of ~60 matches, 25 were outright scams (Oh hello, I am kindly wanting to get laid, please contact me on the app I use every day, telegram!), 20 were fakes (quick reverse image search showed that shockingly, that image was, in fact, not someone who felt the need to actually use dating apps), 10 were people who had decade old pictures or very, very selective angles, and the last 5 were conversations that totally went to plans and then… nothing.
Now, I’m gay, so I already have a HUGE advantage over the poor straghts, because everyone is there to get laid, and thus the bullshit is usually a lot more minimal. Don’t have to convince a dude all that hard, or play the make-sure-you-answer-the-question-correctly shit my straight friends have to deal with.
But, even then, over the course of a month, it was just a case of being nagged to death to spend money, and every interaction being total bullshit, which doesn’t really make you want to spend the time OR money.
And before you assume it’s just me, I went on dates and uh, more, 3 times in the same month off people I met from Snapchat. From the random-people-you-should-add list. So, I’ll assume it’s not just me, and that those apps have rotted to the point they’re literally worse than random people on Snapchat, which is a hell of an achievement.
And I’ll 2nd the just meeting people at things in real life. People can’t play the stupid shit games if they’re standing in front of you: it’s hard to be a scam or a fake, and your ability to catfish is limited to trying to suck your gut in, which isn’t really something someone is likely to miss you doing.
I do think, though, that there were useful dating apps before they got ingested into the match.com umbrella, but they have been, so it’s just a wilderness of enshittified piles of poo as far as you can see.
Not just zoomers.
I’m a grumpy old-inneial, and I dumped them a while ago.
The big reason is they’ve become fucking awful exploitative shitshows. Paywalls for everything, nonstop popups to buy shit, push notifications about things that you should pay for, fake messages that there’s “waiting matches” if I just pay $39.95, and the dark pattern bullshit you expect off scam websites: limited time sales, limited volume sales, ‘act now or it’s gone forever’ nonsense.
And, if that wasn’t bad enough, what you would get, if you paid for it, is flakes, fakes, scammers, and catfishers. Like, while hovering in the free pity-zone you get, I got a ton of matches. I’d say out of ~60 matches, 25 were outright scams (Oh hello, I am kindly wanting to get laid, please contact me on the app I use every day, telegram!), 20 were fakes (quick reverse image search showed that shockingly, that image was, in fact, not someone who felt the need to actually use dating apps), 10 were people who had decade old pictures or very, very selective angles, and the last 5 were conversations that totally went to plans and then… nothing.
Now, I’m gay, so I already have a HUGE advantage over the poor straghts, because everyone is there to get laid, and thus the bullshit is usually a lot more minimal. Don’t have to convince a dude all that hard, or play the make-sure-you-answer-the-question-correctly shit my straight friends have to deal with.
But, even then, over the course of a month, it was just a case of being nagged to death to spend money, and every interaction being total bullshit, which doesn’t really make you want to spend the time OR money.
And before you assume it’s just me, I went on dates and uh, more, 3 times in the same month off people I met from Snapchat. From the random-people-you-should-add list. So, I’ll assume it’s not just me, and that those apps have rotted to the point they’re literally worse than random people on Snapchat, which is a hell of an achievement.
And I’ll 2nd the just meeting people at things in real life. People can’t play the stupid shit games if they’re standing in front of you: it’s hard to be a scam or a fake, and your ability to catfish is limited to trying to suck your gut in, which isn’t really something someone is likely to miss you doing.
I do think, though, that there were useful dating apps before they got ingested into the match.com umbrella, but they have been, so it’s just a wilderness of enshittified piles of poo as far as you can see.