My gender therapist told me this in response to something I said referencing my chest. It was a while ago but it’s stuck with me. I’m wondering what you all think of this comment? The comment felt disqualifying, like I was less male for calling my chest a “breast”, or I would be seen as less male because of it, but I can be pretty sensitive so I might be overthinking and she might be right that men don’t talk like that.
Any form of gender policing is oppressive and should be ignored. Your therapist is obviously wrong and should not be taken seriously. If you like to behave and talk like most men do then that’s cool, but it should be your own choice and not something your therapist tells you to do. I don’t think the way people call breasts is gendered that way but who knows.
I sometimes notice that I feel like I need to behave more ‘manly’ to convince others that I’m actually trans but rationally I think that that’s silly. I try to just accept the way I am because I don’t want to conform to this enforced gendered society.