And yeah, I try to scope things down to their age level. If my kiddo is asking why I don’t like a given politician, they don’t need the whole rundown of their platform, just one or two bullet points to take back to their friends in a “but my dad said…” type argument. The same goes with sciency stuff, they usually don’t care, they just want to win some argument (e.g. my older kids love telling my youngest that the sun is going to explode).
And yeah, when there are multiple sides, I’ll try to explain them as best I can. If the issue isn’t settled, I’ll explain the various sides as best I can and tell them why I arrived at the conclusion I did, as well as how much I trust the evidence from each side. We haven’t discussed it, but if we talk about global warming/climate change, I’ll try to explain why one group says we need immediate change and the other wants a more measured approach, what impact it could have on the economy, etc, but in terms appropriate for their age level. If it seems they’re at an impasse about something w/ a friend, I’ll ask them to try to explain things from the other kid’s perspective. And then we’ll explore why they might feel that way, and why that’s different from how my kid feels. That’s usually enough for them to find some kind of compromise.
Hopefully that approach helps them understand that considering other points of view is valuable, but at the end of the day, they should follow the direction the facts lead them.
Awesome, you rock.
And yeah, I try to scope things down to their age level. If my kiddo is asking why I don’t like a given politician, they don’t need the whole rundown of their platform, just one or two bullet points to take back to their friends in a “but my dad said…” type argument. The same goes with sciency stuff, they usually don’t care, they just want to win some argument (e.g. my older kids love telling my youngest that the sun is going to explode).
And yeah, when there are multiple sides, I’ll try to explain them as best I can. If the issue isn’t settled, I’ll explain the various sides as best I can and tell them why I arrived at the conclusion I did, as well as how much I trust the evidence from each side. We haven’t discussed it, but if we talk about global warming/climate change, I’ll try to explain why one group says we need immediate change and the other wants a more measured approach, what impact it could have on the economy, etc, but in terms appropriate for their age level. If it seems they’re at an impasse about something w/ a friend, I’ll ask them to try to explain things from the other kid’s perspective. And then we’ll explore why they might feel that way, and why that’s different from how my kid feels. That’s usually enough for them to find some kind of compromise.
Hopefully that approach helps them understand that considering other points of view is valuable, but at the end of the day, they should follow the direction the facts lead them.