I genuinely don’t know how to give a good response. Especially, (I’ve had this happen before) when I secretly like the person they’re talking about and don’t wanna ruin the friendship. (That’s why my feelings are secret)

  • Toes♀@ani.social
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    12 hours ago

    I suspect they just want someone to listen.

    Don’t do anything about it (unless they ask), just acknowledge their feelings.

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      12 hours ago

      Yeah, basically this. You could ask some followup questions about how they feel about the situation, if they haven’t talked your ear off about that already.

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    11 hours ago

    Depending how your friend feels about this person, it might be an idea to tell your friend how your feel about that other person. If your friend isn’t into the obsessed one while you are, you could arrange to all hang out together and your friend could effectively scrape the person off onto you. Win-win-win. Also, in my experience, it could simply be from the novelty that your friend is taking any amount of interest in being wanted like that. For most normal people it’s not common place for someone else to take that much of an interest in them. It can be an ego booster, disturbing or any combination of the 2.

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      10 hours ago

      This probably won’t happen but I kinda hope if they don’t work out, that maybe my friend can date another crush that I hopefully don’t like