Can’t take being misgendered and harassed. He/himed. People starting arguments over their own intolerance and blaming the arguments on drag. In so much pain. Hopes this post won’t lead to more pain. What do you do when nobody will believe you’re hurt, and every time you scream out in pain, you’re accused of having an agenda? What kind of agenda is just not wanting to be harassed anymore? They think they’re winning when they fill a thread with drama and then complain about all the drama. They think they’re doing something right? How do you tell people you’re honestly suffering and have them believe you?
self-harm thoughts
Do you just cut your skin open and show it to them? Is that how you convince them that they’re causing you pain? HOW? How the fuck do you convince them that your pain isn’t a trick?
They tell you to block them while they misgender you and tell the whole world you’re the devil. “Just ignore everything I’m doing to hurt you and you’ll be okay”. It doesn’t make any sense but they think it’s right. They could choose to disengage this very minute but they don’t. They think harassment and misgendering is a crusade of justice. That hurting people is a moral good, but oh no, don’t you dare claim you’re hurt when I hurt you.
How the fuck do you post your tears on lemmy?
Yeah, there’s plenty of sucky people unfortunately.
I’m sorry you’re hurting.
Fwiw, and I know it isn’t worth much, I think you being willing to address the issues the way you do is a good thing. It’s one of the things that edged me across the line into believing you aren’t trolling. You’ve made me, personally, think harder about several issues, and even shift my opinions a good bit. Dunno if you remember me saying I’d think about what you said regarding neopronouns. But I did, and I still am. You, your words, shifted my opinion on that.
You’re right. The degree of sheer nastiness pointed your way when you have never that I’ve seen offered anything more than mild snark to anyone, it is absurd.
Hell, if you responded to this saying that you have been trolling all along, I’d still be glad you were here on lemmy, doing what you’re doing. If you aren’t just being a normal, decent person trying to be yourself, you have sure as hell fooled me. And, to me, even if it was a troll, it amounts to the exact same thing as the reality of what you bring to the rest of us.
No bullshit, no jokes, and even with not necessarily agreeing with every stance you take, I’m glad you’re here.
I hope that it’s enough be a bit of a bandaid on the stress. I know I’m not the only one that likes seeing you around, though not many folks say it.
I’ve got a friend that’s a semi-regular lurker of lemmy. We’ve talked about you out in the non digital world. I know he respects you a lot. He was throwing around terms like badass.
So, if you’ve got tears to shed, shed them with the knowledge that no matter how much hate there is towards you, it isn’t everyone.
Thank you so very much. That does mean more to drag than all the commiseration and advice in the other thread. Drag made this post on 196 too, before drag remembered that drag has a lemmy.world account that can post here (this community unbanned drag’s NZ account, but the unban didn’t federate).
The other thread had some very nice people. But hearing that drag’s existence made the world a better place is something else. It’s easier to think that being drag is worth it. Drag gets worried sometimes that the transphobes are right, and drag existing really does just cause more hate. Drag never actually believes it, but abuse messes with your self-esteem. It’s easy to blame yourself for being a victim.
So thank you very very much. And drag does remember you.