I realize those two things can go hand-in-hand. I genuinely don’t mean to be offensive and am asking in earnest. I personally was born male assigned at birth, feel pretty male but also hate being male. It’s not that I wish I was something else, I just don’t like being male and can’t relate to most “male experiences” besides having a dick. I don’t know anyone who is not cishet irl, so I could definitely use some education in this area
I don’t identify as transfemme. But my experience, coming from a similar but not identical situation, is that I just decided to roll with the things I liked, change the things I don’t. I like having long hair so I grew it long. I hate having body hair so I started shaving then epilating, then shave and lasering. I started taking finasteride (a DHT blocker) recently because I was like, well I like my long hair and hate my body hair and this means my head hair (that is already amazing) will be better and hopefully my body hair less so.