Then do what makes you happy! There aren’t any rules. WLW can be into someone who’s femme, butch, or anywhere in-between (or outside) of that paradigm. If your heart tells you to dress up cute, then go for it! :)
Tbf, it’s not like I have no interest in boys. It’s just that girls as so much easier to talk to! (⁀ᗢ⁀)
Of course...
There’s also the fact that so many men never had a chance to be mature people. They’re soooo mysterious… because so many of them hate having open conversations about themselves. So many were never given
healthy emotional tools as kids. So many don’t learn until later in life, instead getting groomed by reactionary social cults into being the most unattractive versions of themselves.
It’s not like it doesn’t happen to women, but so many more men feel unsafe to date. The brain worms is so rampant and hard to deal with. We need to treat them en masse, not through relationships
One of the worst parts (from my perspective, as a woman who wishes to help them) is that they’ve become unreachable. They’ve become primed to tune out the voices and opinions of anyone who isn’t cis-male. The rest of us can do little more than worry as they go deeper and deeper into the rabbit hole, because anything we say or do is liable to make them burrow even deeper. To reach those guys, cis-men will have to lead the challenge.
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But to do so would require an incredible amount of emotional labor. I believe most cis-men are good people. But in my experience, most of them will shrug off emotional labor tasks at every available opportunity. I’d love for a guy who feels offended by that statement to prove me wrong. I’d love to see them spurred to take action, even if just out of spite. Sadly, the most I can expect is a downvote and/or a futile, self-defensive rant.
Then do what makes you happy! There aren’t any rules. WLW can be into someone who’s femme, butch, or anywhere in-between (or outside) of that paradigm. If your heart tells you to dress up cute, then go for it! :)
Tbf, it’s not like I have no interest in boys. It’s just that girls as so much easier to talk to! (⁀ᗢ⁀)
Of course...
There’s also the fact that so many men never had a chance to be mature people. They’re soooo mysterious… because so many of them hate having open conversations about themselves. So many were never given healthy emotional tools as kids. So many don’t learn until later in life, instead getting groomed by reactionary social cults into being the most unattractive versions of themselves.
It’s not like it doesn’t happen to women, but so many more men feel unsafe to date. The brain worms is so rampant and hard to deal with. We need to treat them en masse, not through relationships
You’re right. It is scary, isn’t it?
One of the worst parts (from my perspective, as a woman who wishes to help them) is that they’ve become unreachable. They’ve become primed to tune out the voices and opinions of anyone who isn’t cis-male. The rest of us can do little more than worry as they go deeper and deeper into the rabbit hole, because anything we say or do is liable to make them burrow even deeper. To reach those guys, cis-men will have to lead the challenge.
spoiler
But to do so would require an incredible amount of emotional labor. I believe most cis-men are good people. But in my experience, most of them will shrug off emotional labor tasks at every available opportunity. I’d love for a guy who feels offended by that statement to prove me wrong. I’d love to see them spurred to take action, even if just out of spite. Sadly, the most I can expect is a downvote and/or a futile, self-defensive rant.