As a cis het white guy it’s important for everyone here to know what I think:
Fatherhood, and my monogamous het partnership are the best things that’ve happened in my life.
“Traditional family values” (paternalism, misogynism etc) are toxic, and abusive. If your existence as a trans person helps undermine them, I celebrate you. If your existence as a trans person somehow reinforces those values I’ll still celebrate you (but I’ll be curious about how that’s happening).
You have allies.
Edit to add: the opening line was firmly tongue in cheek.
Ay fr, from a “blue haired gendergrafitti skoldilocks”: Your ways may be alien and sometimes even a false positive for me to be on my guard…but I will always distinguish healthy, non-coercive forms of allocishet relationships apart from the Imperial Family model.
I figure that reminder does hurt for next time the topic comes up next to the word colonialism: That you refuse to subordinate and to be subordinated is seen.
As a cis het white guy it’s important for everyone here to know what I think:
Fatherhood, and my monogamous het partnership are the best things that’ve happened in my life.
“Traditional family values” (paternalism, misogynism etc) are toxic, and abusive. If your existence as a trans person helps undermine them, I celebrate you. If your existence as a trans person somehow reinforces those values I’ll still celebrate you (but I’ll be curious about how that’s happening).
You have allies.
Edit to add: the opening line was firmly tongue in cheek.
Ay fr, from a “blue haired gendergrafitti skoldilocks”: Your ways may be alien and sometimes even a false positive for me to be on my guard…but I will always distinguish healthy, non-coercive forms of allocishet relationships apart from the Imperial Family model.
I figure that reminder does hurt for next time the topic comes up next to the word colonialism: That you refuse to subordinate and to be subordinated is seen.