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    “There is a push, I think just a societal norm that if somebody is your family that they are entitled to your time,” said Calhoun, “and I think the answer is absolutely not.”

    This is a really good rule of thumb for dealing with toxic people in general.

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    A great piece of advice in general, not just for the holiday season.

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    True anytime, but especially in this season when they may be especially gloating and trying to goad you. A year or two from now, when they’re starting to feel the repercussions of the Reich Wing’s policies, might be a better time to see them again.

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    My wife mentioned that I would be exempt from Christmas with the Trump loving in-laws this year and I’m probably going to take her up on that.

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    Sometimes the only currency, the only leverage you have with your family is your presence. Don’t be afraid to use it for a good cause.

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    I’ve often wondered why I was forced to spend my holidays with people just because our DNA had some similarities.

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    I plan on not sharing any information with my inlaws. I used to be jokey, they want concentration camps for illegals. The time to cut them off should of been years ago.

    Edit: I should note my wife and her brothers and sisters don’t get into details when talking to them as well. I’m guessing they think the same thing.