I really appreciate the way you describe autism more as a colour wheel than a gradient. I think that’s a very good visual for me to understand. I’m a bit unsure about the language I’m supposed to use when this kid in particular is so high functioning though. If we’re talking about a color wheel here, would it be fair to say he’s got a fairly desaturated form of autism then? Or that his color mostly blends in with the rest of the neurotypical class?
Or is it all just “masking”? How does autistic type masking differ from the masking everyone has to do just to fit into society at all?
To address some of your concerns here, I believe I’ve been somewhat misunderstood here and you’ve assumed something about me that isn’t true. I do talk to these kids all the time. It’s my job to talk to them and to understand them, and I do it with joy :)
This is not an assumption with the kid. I’m asking them and digging a bit deeper, and the kid tells me that he didn’t have his computer there.
I ask him if he brought it to school, and he did. It just wasn’t in front of him and he tells me he was more interested in the conversation he had with his classmate instead.
That’s fine, that’s not something I get annoyed with, I just go “alright, chop chop. Talk while you work, and you’ll be good” and the situation is solved.
When I only get “the PC isn’t here”, and we’ve been through this song and dance many a time before, then I do get a little exasperated, though not outwards, and I am flexible in the whole ordeal.
There’s a reason I put “excuse” in quotation marks in my original post here. It’s a bad reason, or at least not the full reason. That’s what the original question was about, too.
So I understand that you’re very, very passionate about this topic, and I get that you try to keep it respectful as well, but I will add that I also definitely feel mischaracterized here, and that makes the message a lot harder to accept for me (though I do agree with your points here and I also appreciate your color wheel explanation).
I basically feel scolded for something I didn’t do. Even if you might not mean to, it feels like you’re calling me a failure as an educator, and I can guess most people who had a teacher like that didn’t learn a lot from them.
I really appreciate the way you describe autism more as a colour wheel than a gradient. I think that’s a very good visual for me to understand. I’m a bit unsure about the language I’m supposed to use when this kid in particular is so high functioning though. If we’re talking about a color wheel here, would it be fair to say he’s got a fairly desaturated form of autism then? Or that his color mostly blends in with the rest of the neurotypical class?
Or is it all just “masking”? How does autistic type masking differ from the masking everyone has to do just to fit into society at all?
To address some of your concerns here, I believe I’ve been somewhat misunderstood here and you’ve assumed something about me that isn’t true. I do talk to these kids all the time. It’s my job to talk to them and to understand them, and I do it with joy :)
This is not an assumption with the kid. I’m asking them and digging a bit deeper, and the kid tells me that he didn’t have his computer there.
I ask him if he brought it to school, and he did. It just wasn’t in front of him and he tells me he was more interested in the conversation he had with his classmate instead. That’s fine, that’s not something I get annoyed with, I just go “alright, chop chop. Talk while you work, and you’ll be good” and the situation is solved.
When I only get “the PC isn’t here”, and we’ve been through this song and dance many a time before, then I do get a little exasperated, though not outwards, and I am flexible in the whole ordeal.
There’s a reason I put “excuse” in quotation marks in my original post here. It’s a bad reason, or at least not the full reason. That’s what the original question was about, too.
So I understand that you’re very, very passionate about this topic, and I get that you try to keep it respectful as well, but I will add that I also definitely feel mischaracterized here, and that makes the message a lot harder to accept for me (though I do agree with your points here and I also appreciate your color wheel explanation).
I basically feel scolded for something I didn’t do. Even if you might not mean to, it feels like you’re calling me a failure as an educator, and I can guess most people who had a teacher like that didn’t learn a lot from them.