I am horrible at lying and I don’t understand how people can do it so easily. Not just the instant creativity of coming up with something plausible, but then they have to remember that AND whom they told which lie to, in case that gets referenced or brought up later. How on earth do you manage something like that?
I got really good at telling little lies because my parents were the type of shitheads to interrogate and blame me for literally any problem. they would refuse to believe me when I told the truth so I found it more convenient to tell them what I thought they’d more likely believe. I think this is a good skill to have but it has fucked me over before because I used to default to doing that with any authority figure.
This. Except I’m not limited to authority figures and that’s sometimes very hard to handle. Like if a friend wants to invite me on monday but I already have something planned with another friend that same day I sometimes feel like giving the real reason would make them jealous.
Yes, I know I shouldn’t do this, and I’m working on it, but it’s not easy. It’s especially hard when the real reason is something like “spending time with you in particular is very stressful for me and I can’t handle it”.
There are benevolent lies that I have told, and I follow a different method. Whenever one of these lies has to be told, I start by working backwards. I figure out what the goal of the lie is, and then what the lie should be. I try to figure out how to work that into my actual life. And then, that simply becomes reality. I dont have to remember who Ive told it to because its what I tell anyone curious. If people meet up and talk, they all have the matching story.
I am horrible at lying and I don’t understand how people can do it so easily. Not just the instant creativity of coming up with something plausible, but then they have to remember that AND whom they told which lie to, in case that gets referenced or brought up later. How on earth do you manage something like that?
Lie as little as possible, and always tell them to different groups that won’t discuss them with each other.
Source: “Why didn’t you make your homework?”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k1GFofUY3jg
I got really good at telling little lies because my parents were the type of shitheads to interrogate and blame me for literally any problem. they would refuse to believe me when I told the truth so I found it more convenient to tell them what I thought they’d more likely believe. I think this is a good skill to have but it has fucked me over before because I used to default to doing that with any authority figure.
This. Except I’m not limited to authority figures and that’s sometimes very hard to handle. Like if a friend wants to invite me on monday but I already have something planned with another friend that same day I sometimes feel like giving the real reason would make them jealous. Yes, I know I shouldn’t do this, and I’m working on it, but it’s not easy. It’s especially hard when the real reason is something like “spending time with you in particular is very stressful for me and I can’t handle it”.
There are benevolent lies that I have told, and I follow a different method. Whenever one of these lies has to be told, I start by working backwards. I figure out what the goal of the lie is, and then what the lie should be. I try to figure out how to work that into my actual life. And then, that simply becomes reality. I dont have to remember who Ive told it to because its what I tell anyone curious. If people meet up and talk, they all have the matching story.