When Sarah Harris went in for surgery to remove her wisdom teeth in the summer of 2020, she must have thought she was in good hands. The oral surgeon she chose, Dr. James Ryan, had years of training, a good reputation and a thriving practice near her Washington, D.C.-area home. As a new patient at 23, she may never have dreamed he’d allegedly watched her when she was just 14. And Ryan would do more than take out Sarah’s teeth. Her family says he would take her self-control and eventually take her life.

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    It is not really subjective. A fifty year old pursuing someone who is less than half their age is the very definition of creepy. I get you are playing devil’s advocate here cause “love exists” no matter what the age.

    Well here is a ugly wake up call, most 50 year olds would certainly turn down being pursued by someone half their age. Most 50 year olds are not pursuing someone who could be younger than their kids.

    I get it, you are the kind of guy who would fuck his daughter’s friend. You might not have kids and are lacking the perspective that it is basically sleeping with a child. You might just be some creep who likes to manipulate someone much younger than you.

    Whatever it is, I am here to tell you that most people think it is creepy and unacceptable. How many healthy relationships have you seen with this age gap in your lifetime? This is probably some kind of fantasy you have that you are trying to justify here.

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      Ugh. The ad hominem is childish.

      What you or “most people” think is creepy is irrelevant, because that’s the very definition of subjective.

      You’re absolutely entitled to make judgements about age discrepancies in other peoples relationships if you wish, but labeling them evil or manipulative or criminal on that basis is presumptive.

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        Just trying to make it clear to you when you in your fifties and pursue a 23 year woman that people are going to judge you for it. This isn’t me, it is society. And for good reason.

        The only thing childish here is your devil’s advocate nonsense. I am not going to play pretend fantasy with you and sugar coat the reality that most men that age chasing young tail are disgusting.

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          I’m not advocating for the devil, I’m merely skeptical about this advertorial for a docudrama.

          If you want to continue believing that 50 year olds don’t find 23 year olds attractive, then more power to you.