• calcopiritus@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    The tinder one is though. Someone being on tinder doesn’t tell you anything about that person. Only that they’re looking for either a partner or casual sex.

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        Being on tinder doesn’t tell anything new given the context of the conversation. Any single girls that anon’s friend’s gf would consider referring to our apparently-single anon would be interested in one or both of those things whether they were on tinder or not, or they hopefully wouldn’t agree to a date.

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          Well it sort of depends. Using dating apps for hookups is fine, but its awful for building relationships. The ghosting alone is pretty traumatic.

          I would hope a potential dating partner would also be aware of this and have a similar view. They could just say they use it for hook ups exclusively though and it wouldnt bother me.

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        2 months ago

        Presumably, if you’re looking for a partner, if the potential partner is looking for a partner it’s better.

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      2 months ago

      This is fake but that said…

      Meh, Tinder isn’t a dating app. It’s a hook up app. There are dating apps which are fine, but tinder is a hookup bar, you know the one, where the bar is empty by 12:30 am because everyone has found a friend for the night. Can you find a long term mate? Sure but odds are against you.

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          Things like eHarmony, Match, etc. they generally have a lot more information about potential matches and there’s usually a back and forth over a period of time.

          I know several people that met spouses on them.I used them with some success.

          The friends that used Tinder the choice to swipe is 99% based on looks alone. And things usually move very fast.

          Not saying you can’t meet long term interest on Tinder or can’t have a hook up on others. But they have pretty defined goal differences and the people that use them also.

          Disclaimer: I’m a strong proponent of people being happy and doing right for them. I make no judgements.