I used the webapp version to browse, never registered. I find seeing photos of others, makes me jealous and self conscious, not saying bad about myself, just that I feel jealous of what features others have. Not healthy mindset for sure. I like it, more conversation focused, not “look what I have”. Congrats to mastodon for being better community wise over fb or twitter.

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    If i compare to fb/twitter mstodon is better. However, mastodon has a lot of “instagram like” people posting on it and i don’t like or feel comfortable with that aspect. I like text based and less image based. I don’t like seeing people posting how they look.

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      Oh, yeah I feel you. Those sites are insecurity generators because people only post when they’re at their best. They can foster creepy parasocial relationships too.

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        Yeah, i’ve noticed they look the best always. It’s not authentic, though some will type the truth of how they feel. I don’t see it in photos very much on socials, outside of dating apps.

        The word “insecurity” is strange to me. i see it thrown around a bit, yet find it doesn’t make sense, when i think of what it means. “free from harm” or “afforded safety”. Seeing others, doesn’t cause me harm or loss of safety, just a sort of " body image issue", which makes more since. when i think of security, i think of a military base or defenses against imperialism etc, when i think of security. Hope that makes sense.

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          I get what you mean, sometimes words don’t make sense to me either. According to etymonline the word secure comes from Latin securus. se- meaning “free from” and cura meaning “care.” It originally meant “without care or fear, quiet, easy” or “careless, reckless, overconfident.”

          So I guess we can understand “insecure” as meaning “fearful, disquiet, uneasy.” Or maybe “cares too much, underconfident.”