Everyone I know, even more “progressive” people, treat me like a damn alien for not prioritizing getting a new car since mine died over covid.

Why does nobody blink an eye at this habit people have of just… Sitting in their car in the driveway? Its not on, there’s no music, they aren’t leaving - they’re just sitting there for an hour or more. I see it fairly often, but if I mention it being odd people look at me like I’m dumb. Are we really THAT car centric now that it’s this normalized to be like “fuck my living room, fuck my TV, fuck my couch, I just wanna sit in my car all day?”

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    from people I’ve talked to who do that (and me) it’s usually to get away from other people before going inside somewhere. like the husband who chills in his car to avoid the wife, or the son who doesn’t wanna go in to deal with the dad yet.

    the car is a portable bubble, an escape, your own little contained environment in which you can exercise some form of control. a mini home away from home for some.

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      If you have to sit in your car for 3 hours to avoid your wife, you need a divorce. 🤣

      Same with any other situation, if you have to live in your car you need to change your living situation.

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        Not many people sit for 3 hours, but many sit for maybe half hour. you’re exaggerating stuff.

        And no, not many people can “change their living situation” with a snap of their finger either, because they’re mostly trapped in that situation unwillingly, whether physically or mentally. That’s why they chose escapism in some shape or form, and doomscrolling in their quiet car after a long day is one of em.

        Yes, it’s unhealthy but laughing at them as if you’re superior helps no one and only makes people resent this community more. This community shouldn’t be that literal.

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          I’m going to ignore you now for your bad faith arguments. You don’t know my experiences, or the behavior of people in my area.

          I think its weird and unhealthy, coping mechanism or not, and I refuse to pretend it isn’t to make people comfortable. Check out exercise or therapy.

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            You’re the one being bad faith all over this post. But anyways, what I really wanted to comment is that it might be a unhealthy coping mechanism, but oftentimes it is the only one people have. Specially in the context of the US, people can’t afford mental health care and a lot of people are overworked to the point they don’t have any energy left to exercise. Just let them have their private alone time, you’re a weirdo commenting on other’s habits while displaying absolutely zero empathy to other’s struggles.

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              I’m commenting on weird car habits in a “fuck cars” community, lines up pretty well if you ask me. Are you sure you’re in the right community? I’m sure there’s plenty of pro-car communities on Lemmy for you where you can enjoy discussing centering your life around your automobile over your home.

              You claim I have zero empathy but you’re the one arguing “fuck healthy or productive coping mechanisms living your life in your car is just as good and fuck you for saying that people should seek better options.” GTFO with that nonsense.

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                Nice strawmans. You are really good at constructing them. I’m against cars, but I fight against the culprits, oil and manufacturing companies and corrupt politicians who run car centric policies under billionaires lobbying. I don’t attack people who are forced into a lifestyle that leaves them no healthy avenues for mental health or that deprives them of healthier life choices. Yours is the logic that criminalize the homeless for sleeping in their cars in a public parking lot. You get out with your twisted logic. This is not about being cruel to the people forced to depend on cars, it is against the system that forces us all into that unhealthy lifestyle.

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        yeah, they do. unfortunately a lot of people are stuck in situations not easily got out of… that’s why they escape to their car…