• dustyData@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    That always reeks of so much insecurity to me. Just own up to it. If you are in a relationship, “sure, I would do a threesome, but only if you actively want it too and we both agreed on the person and what was allowed or forbidden”. Not in a relationship, “Sure, I would be down for a threesome as long as the desires and limits of all people involved are discussed before hand and accepted by all”. There, with that attitude there’s less risk of confusion or misunderstanding.

    • Ms. ArmoredThirteen@lemmy.ml
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      5 months ago

      Not sure why you’re getting down votes because this is the way. If you want something, be open and ask for consent. Just be okay with people saying no, too, and you’re good

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      5 months ago

      Wow, a mythical rational adult talking about sexual topics in a mature fashion, that’s like a unicorn!

      But seriously, you’re right on the money. That’s how my wife and I started bringing people into our relationship, and now we have a throuple hahaha.

    • HeyListenWatchOut@lemmy.world
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      5 months ago

      Actually 100% agree. Was more about the meme than real life though.

      Communication, honesty, boundaries that are mutually agreed upon and respected is the sign of a healthy relationship… not any artificial external construct set by religion, peers, or some perceived “norm” from society.

      That being said, I couldn’t think of a more clever comparison to make. 😅

    • Empricorn@feddit.nl
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      5 months ago

      Look, I’m not gay but if my girl wants to bang Andrew Garfield, we’re having a three-way. My only ground rule is no one is allowed to leave anyone else for Andrew Garfield. And that includes Andrew Garfield…