• Ibaudia@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    My partner definitely does this a lot. We’ll be having a good time and randomly she gets upset, usually because something in her environment reminds her of something she is/was unhappy about. Then starts bringing up unrelated things from the distant past that also make her upset, seemingly just to continue the cycle. This often just gets projected onto me and she gets extremely impatient with me or raises her voice, even if what she’s mad about has nothing to do with me.

    I thought this had more to do with her mental illnesses than anything. The fact that this is such a stereotype, though, makes me think we’re failing our young girls by socializing them to be psychic vampires, similar to how we socialize young men to be aggressive.