She’s been drinking a mug of black coffee with me in the mornings occasionally. I have a drip maker that I put 4 teaspoons Maxwell House in. Nothing beyond that.

I got this message around 11AM. We drank the coffee around 715-730.

I get that I wasn’t exactly the most sensitive I could have been, but I’m a rural mail carrier. I had to respond while stopped at a mailbox and we are GPS tracked. I get in trouble if I spend too much time stopped.

  • BarbecueCowboy@lemmy.worldEnglish
    42·
    2 months ago

    So, you’re not wrong, but you’ve also missed the point of the interaction. This wasn’t a conversation where exchange of information was the goal, this was a bid for you to validate her feelings. The response she was seeking was empathy for what she was dealing with and by adding context and trying to explain it instead, you’ve kind of headed in the opposite direction.

    Yes, I know, it’s incredibly frustrating.

      • BarbecueCowboy@lemmy.worldEnglish
        5·
        2 months ago

        So, just from experience, be careful with that line of thinking. I thought the same, ive had friends who thought the same, and none of us had those relationships work out. Every relationship is unique, but sometimes instead of there not being a problem, your partner may just not tell you it’s a problem until it’s too late.