Hello ladies (current and former) of Lemmy (current) - I’m curious how your experience of the male gaze has changed as you moved in and out of young-woman-hood.

How has your opinion of being seen changed through this process?

    • TheBigBrother@lemmy.world
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      6 months ago

      I don’t like to disclose personal identificable information on the internet, but I am +25yo.

      I’m not saying it’s scientifically proven… but I’ve personally noticed that women lose most of their physical attractiveness at age 30, which means attention from perhaps 90% of men who generally focus only on their physique.

      • silly goose meekah@lemmy.world
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        6 months ago

        I mean, I agree with you observation, but your suggestion seems asinine. I don’t think 90% of men go for looks only. A majority, probably, but I’d guess more like 60-70%. Also, men in their 30s generally also start to understand that looks aren’t everything. So just because a woman is single at 30 does not mean she has to settle for “the least worse”

        • TheBigBrother@lemmy.world
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          6 months ago

          I think it depends on the culture of the place, it can vary, although I do believe that the majority of men, regardless of age, would prefer a 25-year-old woman to a 45-year-old. Very different from if you ask a woman, generally women like older men, if you ask a 25-year-old woman, she would most likely prefer someone 30 or older, and a 25-year-old man would most likely prefer a 20-year-old woman. I am referring to the generality, not the totality, there are definitely exceptions.

          I believe OP it’s asking about “The Wall”, In my culture and according to my experience, I have noticed that generally it is more difficult for 35-year-old women who are alone to find a partner than for 35-year-old men who are alone. I think it is due to the traditional role of men and women. Honestly, I am not very sure what will happen with the new generations, but I think that artificial intelligence brides will be a success.