• kava@lemmy.world
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    If a kid has a heart condition and they have to have a risky surgery, the doctors ask the parents. Because the child is not old enough to understand the implications of these things.

    I see gender dysphoria as a similar thing. The suicide rate is very high for these individuals so some form of treatment is essential if you care about your child. It’s the same as if they had a heart issue with like a 40% risk of dying. It’s life or death.

    The transitioning process works best if it happens before puberty. When a child goes through puberty, the sexual hormones start pumping and that permanently changes many parts of the body. Literally the shape and size of bones will change.

    If you catch gender dysphoria before puberty, the end result of the transition will be much more effective than doing it at 18 or 20. By that point there’s no going back from puberty.

    So essentially - the child isn’t making a decision. The parents are making an informed medical decision based on a diagnosis by a medical professional.

    I really don’t see this as any different than any other medical issue. The difference is this is unusual and many people think emotionally.

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      That’s what I can’t fathom. This is such a big boost for children’s mental health. It heavily reduces their depression and suicide risk. They’re happier.

      Maybe this is controversial, but if a parent isn’t willing to do that for their kid, I believe it’s neglect and endangerment. They aren’t fit to be a parent, and the state should intervene. We don’t let parents with batshit religious beliefs deny their children lifesaving treatment. We shouldn’t let parents deny their children treatment that would vastly improve their mental health and reduce their suicide risk.

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        I would want more research before mandating it as if it were lifesaving operations. But yeah, I agree in a general sense.

        I think a lot of people that disagree would change their minds if they had a child with gender dysphoria. A lot of conservatives believe the parents are manipulating the child or seeing things that aren’t there.

        But I’ve seen it before. I met a little boy maybe 8 or 9 years old in a very religious conservative household some years back. It was the neighbor of a family friend. Nobody manipulated him into saying stuff like “I’m a girl in a boy’s body”. Or trying to sneak makeup or dresses. They tried to pray it out of him. But it was persistent, year after year he would day these things.

        I think the same thing with a lot of anti-gay people having a gay son or whatever. Once you meet someone like that it sort of becomes real and makes you realize “oh wow maybe I’m wrong”

        I changed my mind after meeting that family and seeing the boy. I used to think differently on this.

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          It takes a strong and wise person to admit they were wrong and change their mind for the better. I applaud you for that. Given how prevalent calling things gay was when I was a teenager, I think a lot of people changed their minds for the better when they realized their friends and family were gay. And then some realized they were also gay, funny enough.

          I agree that we need more time before we institute any sort of policy or mandating, but I do think we should eventually do that.

          It’s interesting, I think a lot of conservative beliefs come down to the idea that children cannot be autonomous people with their own beliefs. They don’t believe that a child can have an independent thought, and that whatever they say is indoctrination from parents or school. It says a lot about their worldview.

          If someone fully believes in the independence of children to form their own thoughts and beliefs and opinions, I don’t see how they could support any sort of anti LGBT ban.

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      Man I have to disagree on the heart example. One means death if it’s not ‘treated’ and the other is a life choice.

      Of course pre-hormones is a great time to start but for external / appearance reasons. Do we not force body types on kids enough? It’s shallow thinking and reinforces the worst parts of society.

      I do understand the urge to just dive into it but it’s not as clean cut as just “push pause.” There are known risks, unknown long term effects, and a lack of sufficient testing on how it affects brain development. We need to stop rushing into shit just because it’s easy or highlights how virtuous we are.

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        Suicide rates for trans is almost 50%

        I’m assuming a couple of things here in my logic

        A) transitioning is an effective treatment for gender dysphoria and significantly lowers the suicide rate for these people

        B) there is a medically accurate way to diagnosis gender dysphoria

        So you say “one is death if not treated but the other is a life choice”

        The trans thing is life or death too. If you have a child and they are displaying these types of behaviors (wanting to play with dolls as a boy, saying they are a girl, trying to wear dresses, etc) then you have a kid that is very very likely to kill themselves and have other mental health problems

        Getting medical treatment ASAP is the logical thing to do

        I know it’s still relatively new and can potentially be harmful to the child if not diagnosed properly. I also understand there are some crazy parents out there who project their BS onto their kids.

        But I think as a parent I would want the best for my kid so I would do whatever it takes to make sure they have the best quality of life and just chance at life in general.

        If they are going to transition, they will pass much better if they do it pre-puberty. By the time they’re in high school they would probably look imperceptibly like the opposite sex.

        I would only want it done after rigorous tests by medical professional that absolutely rules out weirdo parents