• pinkdrunkenelephants@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    This is cheating, not polygamy. 🤦 No one involved with this wants polygamy. They all had an expectation of monogamy and broke it, only to benefit themselves. If they tried polygamy, it would only be one sided and break hearts as their only intention is to benefit themselves amd they no longer care about their original partners in the first place. Stop using cheating as a springboard for your toxic lifestyle choices.

    • Phoebe@feddit.de
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      This is not true. People often cheat cause they care for the relationship, but don’t know how to change problems. We are told time and time again that relationships are working magicaly and that ‘with the right person everything is easy’. We are afraid of losing someone we care about, when suggesting poly or having an open relationship. We are afraid how our religios Parents are reacting, if we could lose our job.

      The only thing that is toxic is calling something toxic.if we blame each other it just create shame and people not talking to each other.

      • Fushuan [he/him]@lemm.ee
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        They might care in other ways but they don’t care enough not to cheat. It’s that simple.

        If you don’t talk about opening the relationship, you are breaking the trust, there’s no excuse around it.

      • I Cast Fist@programming.dev
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        1 year ago

        “Honey, I’ve been cheating on you because I really care about you. I’m doing this without your consent or knowledge for our good”

        Yeah, that sounds perfectly reasonable. /s

      • bitsplease@lemmy.ml
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        100% chance this guy/gal has cheated on their So at some point and used this exact reasoning to convince themselves it was OK lol