I am fairly sure that I am being laid off with other Sr. Engineers tomorrow and need some ideas. Basically, I saw a calendar mistake by HR, so oops!

Meh. It’s gonna suck for a bit, but whatevers. Life is more important than a shit job. :)

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    They literally don’t care. Don’t tell them “the truth”, don’t tell them “what’s wrong with the company”, nothing. Just say you’ve enjoyed working there and if things turn around you’d be open to coming back.

    The best outcome for an exit interview is you leave on good terms so you can use them in the future if necessary. You never know when you’ll need a reference.

    Again, any criticism or negativity you bring to the exit interview will just be used against you. You’ll be labeled as disgruntled, or whiny, or just didn’t have what it takes. And that will cut you off from using them in the future if you need to.

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      My partner got laid off in a beeeeg round of layoffs, worked with me at the same company. I wanted to be laid off SO BADLY so I could take some time off work to spend with them—we had the means to take some time off.

      A month passes, and one day my boss calls me into a room where our HR person was sitting. They’re both suuuuuper morose, my boss looks like she’s about to tell me my gramma died.

      I’m BEAMING. They pull out papers and start explaining, ask if I have any questions, and I’m like

      “excellent! I gotta ask about severance” (yes absolutely)

      “so I can do the whole unemployment thing? (yes you can)

      “DOPE! Do I have to work the day out? (…uhhhh no, you can’t)

      “Stellar! Mind if I go say goodbye to some people?” (Absolutely, take your time)

      As I left the room, HR person was like “I must say, Rai, this is the most unconventional one we’ve done so far…” and I thanked them and frolicked out. Gave some hugs, got my stuff, and dipped.

      That was December 2019. The timing could not have worked out more perfectly.

      Thank you, job that laid us off.

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      Agreed if you’re quitting. If you’re getting laid off then you’re not coming back anyway.

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        If you get laid off “ethically” (as in the company really does have budgeting issues and they really are trying to weather the storm and they really are cutting back your role which isn’t critical to continued business operations) then there might be potential options to come back in the future if the business can course correct.

        If you’re getting laid off because they’re too cowardly to fire you, yeah. There’s no position to come back to.

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          Yup, I got hired back a month after being laid off. My job search didn’t pan out well so I was glad.

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    There’s no point in doing anything but being polite and "professional"1 and doing so gives you the most leverage. If nothing else you can try to negotiate a higher severance. But it also potentially enables the best kind of “revenge”.

    Like the time I was laid off and instructed to revoke my and my team’s access to systems. Yes sir… right away sir. Only the bean counters never verified that there was somebody left in the hand-off plan who could access everything.

    Github admin? Not anymore. AWS root account? Who knows?

    Honestly the fallout from that, including frantic begging emails for passwords about a month later, was far more entertaining than anything I could have said at the time. Best of all, the head bean counter got fired over it.

    And because I was completely “professional” my boss there was super supportive and helped me get my next gig. Still checks in on me once in a while.

    1 People often confuse playing the game to believing in it. Use it to your advantage.

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    I heard the rumored date of layoff and booked a surgery I needed for that morning 8am. I got 2 more weeks / another paycheck because they can’t lay you off when you’re on medical leave. Everyone else was let go that morning. I also did it because I was going to lose my insurance (shit American healthcare system)

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    Do what the others already said and be mature and professional. Just wear a full clown costume to the zoom meeting. No comments on it.

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    It depends. If there is any money on the line or don’t want to burn bridges then I’d do the smart thing, whatever that is. Otherwise I’d just skip it.

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      Yeah as much as I’ve fantasized about going nuclear on past employers (or more recently, when firing a client), it just doesn’t bring any good besides a fleeting moment of feeling superior. It’s not worth it, be the bigger person and keep it professional.

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    Always skip the exit interview if you can. It doesn’t help you or your former coworkers. It’s just an HR box-checking exercise.

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      Exit interviews aren’t box checking exercises, they exist to give the company a heads up if the employee seems like they’re disgruntled and might try to sue. Always skip them, it only benefits the company that laid you off, nobody else.

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        Exit inerviews can be valuable and beneficial if the exit is on good terms all around.

        I left my last job for a better-paying position elsewhere, but I still loved my old job and coworkers. It’s still the best job I ever had.

        I couldn’t pass up a 50% raise and they couldn’t match it. No hard feelings or bruised egos. It’s just how things work out.

        Having an honest conversation with HR about what worked and didn’t from an employee perspective with zero stakes for either of us was productive and informative.

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          thank you. Im all for sticking it to employers, but sharing feedback with a place you left on good terms from seems like a great way to maintain professional relationships. Also helps your old coworkers out.

          Bad Jobs and Bad Employers Excluded obvi

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          Do you know if it was productive and informative for them?

          For example, I left a job several years ago, and not long before I left, I met with the boss and explained some of the massive issues facing my department. He sounded interested, but of course he never did anything about those problems, and my former co-workers have told me that the situation is worse than it was before. In my observation, and that of my friends, this is what happens most of the time. After all, if they didn’t listen to you before, and especially if they didn’t ask you before, then why would we expect them to care what you say now?

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        Fair enough, but I think it really just depends on how you look at it. From my POV it’s just a box-checking exercise in the vast majority of cases, and a waste of your time (if you’re the one quitting). But you’re right, employers are super paranoid about this kind of thing (even though they have most of the power). If it is one of those disgruntled-gonna-sue people then you are right, it’s something they need to try to get out in front of.

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      Does it help your co workers?

      If you got fired, no, probably not.

      But if you quit then you can leave them a few clues as to why you’re leaving and how they might avoid losing more staff. That can help the people you left behind.

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        But if you quit then you can leave them a few clues as to why you’re leaving and how they might avoid losing more staff.

        The reason I’m quitting is because they didn’t pick up the clues that I was looking to leave, and I don’t want to help them avoid losing more staff because of it. The people I left behind should take the hint if they were smart.

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          Just because I might be leaving doesn’t mean I want it keeping being a sucky workplace. Ideally I’d move on to something better for me, and people left behind might get an improvement as well.

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        Well sure, because they don’t do exit interviews for people who got fired.

        I know it can feel good to speak your mind, and in an ideal world it would make some impact. It should make some impact. They should listen to people who leave. But they don’t. Because it’s not the purpose of the exercise. They don’t really care about your feedback. They care about the optics only. Remember HR is there to protect the company, not advocate for workers.

        By all means if you want to waste your time go ahead and do an exit interview. There’s not much risk or harm in doing one (unless you make a complete ass out of yourself). But it’s really just there to prop up the thin veneer that HR and the corporate lawyers want businesses to hide behind.

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          Some companies in my experience do do exit interviews for people who are fired. This makes more sense when you realize exit interviews are mostly to give the company a heads up if they think you might try to sue them.

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          At I place I worked they had a few useful people leave in a short time span. All left amicably. They took feedback from the exit interviews on board, and now they are redoing a bunch of the procedures to try and improve the way the workplace functions.

          Keeping more people from quitting is helping the company.

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            OK, that’s good to hear. I think the situation sounds a little bit unique, but not all companies are incapable of learning.

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      I was very happy to do the exit interview at one particular job. I wanted to make it clear to HR that I wasn’t leaving because of the manager or the work or my co-workers but because they paid about 2/3 of the market rate in our area.

      This was important to me because my manager and co-workers were great and it had gotten around to me that HR was eyeing our manager over having had a few people quit over the last year or two, when it was very clearly all about pay and nothing to do with him.

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        If you’re being laid off I don’t know if that works.

        It is my understanding that they’re going to try to get you to say something on the record or worse sign something they can deny your legal rights over.

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            Just sign it and do it anyway. Teledyne for example wouldn’t pay me a package unless I agreed to never bash them on social media. Never for example call them a crooked tax dodge or worthless parasites that liquidate smaller firms. Or so incompetent I am almost convinced they might be a front of some foreign government to weaken the technology of the US as a whole.

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          Ah… I did miss the part about the scenario being a layoff. I agree - Not that useful in that case.

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          It is my understanding that they’re going to try to get you to say something on the record or worse sign something they can deny your legal rights over.

          It depends on where you live. Where I live, if they get you to sign it on the spot it’s very likely unenforceable as you need time to have legal documents reviewed so you aren’t just blindly signing your rights away.

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    I know this isn’t the “fun” answer, but I wouldn’t. I’m a manager, and I’ve been on the other side of that situation too many times. I’ve never met a manager who wants to do it - we’d all rather have enough work for everyone. It sucks but far the most for the person being laid off, but it’s a shitty time for everyone.

    Plus I’ve also hired back good employees when work picked back up down the road, so there’s the bridge burning aspect to consider.

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      It might be just a little bit more shitty to be laid off and have finances jeopardized than to fire someone. I don’t know the market you’re in but I’d never stoop so low to come back to a place that laid me off earlier, I’d really have to be desperate.

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    Bring a lawyer to the meeting, just for fun. Let the hr person stew a bit. Ideally you will be offered a severance package, might as well have the lawyer check it out.

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    Don’t go? I mean, you’re being fired, what’s the worst that can happen so just don’t go. Go for a walk in the woods or mountains while the company is paying you…

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    The last time I got laid off, that morning I had sent a PTO request to my boss for a family trip the following month.

    I got called into said boss’ office for the afternoon meeting letting me know I was being laid off, which I had not been expecting at all. I was given the paperwork to sign, etc. and mostly silently acknowledged everything that was going on. When the boss finally asked if I had any further questions at the end of the meeting, I deadpanned “so, you’ve approved my request to not come in on _____ days next month?”

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    Option 1: Be professional and polite.

    Option 2: Scream Leeroy Jenkins and run through the door in the middle of it.

    1/2 depends on how probable it is for you to need them in the future.