Hello everyone. I recently learned there are a handful of people in my community who engage in non-barriered intercourse by default (sex with multiple partners without condoms).
I try to keep to only one non-barriered partner, to minimize any STI spread that may occur. Though testing is important, there are risks that 1. A test may be wrong, and 2. An infection can be introduced and spread after a successful clean test.
Also, my partner has a history of getting BV if her non-barriered partner(s) have other non-barriered partners. So, we keep it to only one non-barriered partner (for intercourse).
Any thoughts on this? Is it ethical to have more than one? Is it sustainable to only have one?
I think that really depends on your own risk preference. I personally would not want to have unprotected sex with someone who as a default has sex without barriers and I might need more precise communication how we would practice safer sex. If its relevant think I would also want to talk about contraception and how they would deal with (unwanted) pregnancies in their relationships.
But I dont see anything unethical about this assuming this happens in the context of informed consent and without weird power inbalances.
I think that really depends on you and how you want to go forward. I can see how this might become an issue in situations where having barrierless sex is important in more than one of your relationships.