I think you cannot conflate the notion of binary existing with the personal identification as fitting into one of them or not fitting into them.
Like being gay doesn’t require to reject the notion of straight people existing. And as for violating the binary, feminine makeup and dresses with a long beard is a quite strong violation of those binary notions. Just having an androgynous look does not. There is plenty of “buff” women who fully identify as women just as there is very “feminine” men that fully identify as men.
I think you cannot conflate the notion of binary existing with the personal identification as fitting into one of them or not fitting into them.
Like being gay doesn’t require to reject the notion of straight people existing. And as for violating the binary, feminine makeup and dresses with a long beard is a quite strong violation of those binary notions. Just having an androgynous look does not. There is plenty of “buff” women who fully identify as women just as there is very “feminine” men that fully identify as men.