• Glowstick@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    I… don’t understand. I must be missing something or the question they asked must be skewing things or something. Infidelity means cheating on someone who you promised to be monogamous with. Breaking a major promise to someone just to give yourself pleasure is obviously immoral. Like, obviously. I could see people having different opinions about the level of its immoralness, but i can’t imagine how someone could think it’s not immoral at all.

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      6 months ago

      Yeah and what does “not a moral issue” mean? It’s asking a question about morality. I would suspect the question may have been translated differently into things like French for so many people to be confused enough to believe it’s not a question of morality.

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      I would assume it means having sex outside marriage. Not seen as a big deal on France. Big deal elsewhere, but its a spectrum. There are lots of promises we make, that we don’t keep. Some are big, like infidelity, in most countries. Some are smaller and breaking them isn’t immoral.

      If you promise to pick up bananas on the way home and forget that’s not a moral issue. I assume the same level of commitment is considered in France by some, for sex. For others, they may just accept infidelity as normal and just ask that its kept private.

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        6 months ago

        "Not a big deal” doesn’t mean not immoral. Littering is not that big of a deal, but it’s still immoral.

        And your banana analogy doesn’t fit, because the person simply forgot to get bananas, infidelity doesn’t happen because a person forgot that they were in a monogamous relationship

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          6 months ago

          Your morals and the morals of >50% of French respondents obviously don’t align.

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            That’s not at all a certain conclusion, based on the other possibilities i listed that could’ve led to these same numbers. It’s at least as likely that it’s a badly constructed poll. There isn’t even a source cited for this picture. As the science saying goes: garbage in, garbage out

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      6 months ago

      Well life go on. Whether it’s moral or not, the best thing you can do is letting go, we aren’t tied to each other for life.

      It’s not a question of pleasure but feeling. Yes the unfilled promise hurt but that’s not something you have complete control over. And we may make mistake and realize we prefer this and that. However, you have to talk and share to your so.