The tricky thing I’ve noticed in myself is, feeling like a bother or a burden makes me a bother or a burden. Going in feeling like they will be bothered makes me act in awkward ways that is a bother to others. Trying to enter a conversation despite feeling like I’m going to be a burden is similar, I’m just relying on their charity or hoping they don’t notice that I’m a burden. Super awkward.
Entering a conversation believing they want to talk but also willing to leave if the vibes aren’t right seems to be the best balance for me.
The tricky thing I’ve noticed in myself is, feeling like a bother or a burden makes me a bother or a burden. Going in feeling like they will be bothered makes me act in awkward ways that is a bother to others. Trying to enter a conversation despite feeling like I’m going to be a burden is similar, I’m just relying on their charity or hoping they don’t notice that I’m a burden. Super awkward.
Entering a conversation believing they want to talk but also willing to leave if the vibes aren’t right seems to be the best balance for me.